Why do men find it so hard to connect with other people, and their own emotions?

In my personal experience, showing emotion has only ever been mistaken for weakness. I did a bit of experimentation and learned that weight lifting and a mastery of marvel-like quips yields a far better social standing than opening up or sharing my struggles.

Again, this is my personal experience. I’ve never been in a room where someone didn’t want some metric of performance from me, whether it was a boss, a worker, a friend, or romantic interest. I’d like for this not to be the case

Re: Why do men find it so hard to connect with other people, and their own emotions?

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Post by postsantum » Sat, Dec 27, 2025, 5:04 PM UTC

dustbunny wrote: post #5

I find it distasteful when women write articles about mens inner emotional lives. Why couldn't the NYT find a man to write this article?

Because women are most affected. Things are bad, but let's focus on the real victims who provide emotional labour in the form of himpathy

Re: Why do men find it so hard to connect with other people, and their own emotions?

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Post by evanjrowley » Sat, Dec 27, 2025, 5:15 PM UTC

It's also worth acknowledging the effects of testosterone (which males have in greater quantity) over emotional processing, behavior, and development. In human society, these are complicated topics which are difficult to properly examine in vitro, and so modern research has resulted in conflicting conclusions.

Question for $LLM: Aggression (and adversity) have prominent roles in the lives of male mammals. How do our synthetic concepts used to rationalize violence weigh against the reasons for it we see in nature among lions, chimpanzees, wolves, and dolphins?

Re: Why do men find it so hard to connect with other people, and their own emotions?

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Post by failingslooowly » Sat, Dec 27, 2025, 5:30 PM UTC

postsantum wrote: post #8

dustbunny wrote: post #5

I find it distasteful when women write articles about mens inner emotional lives. Why couldn't the NYT find a man to write this article?

Because women are most affected. Things are bad, but let's focus on the real victims who provide emotional labour in the form of himpathy

"Men lonely and suicidal, women most affected."