My personal observation is that when I got married, I became more productive, more selective, and also more effective at solving things quickly. Something about valuing your time.
Startup work-life balance
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#102"Let me dive into something concrete."
That's a seriously mixed metaphor...
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#103In my opinion startups are about speed. That doesn't mean you have to work 14 hour days 7 days a week. It does mean that if some obstacle clears at 5:05 pm on a Friday, then you do the work to get to the next obstacle, even if it means you miss dinner with the family. But if you're ahead of the game on a Monday morning at 9am, then sleep in, or go to a movie, or whatever. Because the best way to go fast is to be enth…
This may be true of YOUR startup. There are plenty of startups out there who have different thoughts about speed. And, so long as expectations are properly set with everyone on the team: co-founders, investors, et al, then whatever you need to do is the right thing regardless of what other startup founders around you are doing.
This is why his startup beats your startup.
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#104Confucius said, "Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life." If you don't work, you don't have to worry about work-life balance.
Confucius say: Man who stand in front of car get tired. Man who stand behind car get exhausted.
I think we can all take some comfort in that, dude.
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#105Excellent, another HN post telling me what I'm thinking. How would I know otherwise?!
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#106Earlier quoted context omitted.
That's certainly possible. But how do you know? It could also be your own projecting of the same thing.
>your own projecting the same thing I'm projecting projecting high school sucking? Au contraire - That would require me to doubt everyone making claims that high school was awesome, which I am not doing.
Exactly. Notice you are doing exactly what you accused 'ogama' of doing. ogama made a point that is pretty valid IMHO, namely that the OP had a sad high school experience and is trying to convince herself that not having fun was fun. You assumed ogama must be projecting, in other words that ogama's high school experience was bad. That could be true. But just as likely, it wasn't. Maybe yours wasn't so good?
For reference, my own high school experience was mixed to be sure. Parts were amazing, other parts sucked. I don't know anyone whose high school experience was 100% awesome. But I do know a lot whose experience sucked 100%. And those people often broadcast statements to the contrary.
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#107Earlier quoted context omitted.
Two divorces in 2.5 years. And since divorces arent "same day service" type things I'm pretty sure the dude is "unhappy" with his private life.
Let the ones who never took a bad decision in an area they are not very familiar with (like personal life when you're all about work) cast him the first stones
I'm not judging dude. But it is what it is...
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#108Earlier quoted context omitted.
> Sure then they may not be the happy at a maximum, but since they haven't found such a maximum yet their hapiness on a relative scale is 100%. Interesting concept. That may have been true 50 years ago when it was not really possible to discover if other people were happier than your personal 100% level. Unfortunately, due to the internet, TV and Hollywood, it's extremely easy to discover there are tons of people out…
True, it may no longer be easy to do that passively - it now requires active action, like refusing to watch TV. (maybe that's why more and more people are complaining about not being happy - it's no longer the default!) Still I believe there's some interest in doing that. If you are interested in maximizing your happiness, refusing the "You are not as happy as you could be" is required. It can be hard, especially if…
It's kinda ironic that "refusing to watch TV" is now considered "active" action.
Re: Startup work-life balance
#109In my opinion startups are about speed. That doesn't mean you have to work 14 hour days 7 days a week. It does mean that if some obstacle clears at 5:05 pm on a Friday, then you do the work to get to the next obstacle, even if it means you miss dinner with the family. But if you're ahead of the game on a Monday morning at 9am, then sleep in, or go to a movie, or whatever. Because the best way to go fast is to be enth…
That depends too - are you going to miss some opportunity because you finished your work at 11:00 PM rather than 10:00 PM? Because if you're not, why not take an hour out, have dinner with the family, and then go back to work for a few hours once the kids are in bed?
I have several people on my team that arrange their day like that, and if I had a family, I would probably do it too. Actually, I often do it anyway, ducking out of work for a late afternoon or evening social activity and then putting in a couple hours from home around midnight. I find that taking a break often makes that late-night work session a lot more productive than if I'd just worked straight through.
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#110Earlier quoted context omitted.
Seriously? It sounds fantastic to me. I would have loved to spend less time in high school hanging out with idiotic, insecure teenagers and more time getting shit done.
There's no such thing as a satisfying, fulfilling experience of high school. The grass there will always seem like it was greener on the other side. The real reason for this is that we take such large jumps in maturity after school stops holding us back that, in retrospect, we realize that if we hadn't been such fucking idiots in high school, we could have had it all.
That was what I thought throughout high school and college, enough that after college, I figured I'd live with my parents and found a startup just to see what my top speed was and what I could accomplish once I really put my mind to something and didn't have any external obstacles holding me back.
I found out that it wasn't really school that was holding me back, it was me. I'd thought that it was really technical skills that were key to doing world-changing things with technology. But it turns out it's not: it's character traits like determination, perseverance, curiosity, observational skills, patience, listening, social skills, respect for others, and the ability to accept help that matter most. There's no way to develop these skills other than time and practice, and I found out that that was what my mostly-liberal-arts education had been trying to teach me, except I hadn't been listening all that much because I was so consumed with the technology aspect.