Hashcards: A plain-text spaced repetition system

Post by IAmBroom » Mon, Dec 15, 2025, 5:11 PM UTC

scotty79 wrote: post #162

furyofantares wrote: post #123

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In what way are you a professional problem solver such that it applies to random problems in peoples' lives? The thing that drives me nuts is when people start throwing out immediate ideas, sometimes before I've even given a full account of the problem. But even if they do wait, I don't feel like explaining why all your immediate ideas don't work - most of the time, I've also already thought of those things. Try aski…

There's value to anyone willing to listen to you talking about your problem. Otherwise rubber duck debugging wouldn't work. Why don't you ask some questions about their obviously wrong solutions instead od spoiling the fun they have guessing? After all to are the one with a problem.

Post by IAmBroom » Mon, Dec 15, 2025, 5:17 PM UTC

LanceH wrote: post #161

btilly wrote: post #70

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This attitude reminds me of another phrase that I've internalized. Choosing to be right, is choosing to be alone. Whatever you choose to put above trying to get along with others, limits who can be part of your group. In the extreme, you will feel absolutely justified. And yet be absolutely alone. As an example, language communities that focus on being able to find the ideal way to program (eg Lisp) tend to splinter.…

Who is the one choosing, though? I think it's the one who brings another person into the conversation with a problem begging for help that turns on that same person for trying to make the situation better. That is the person who needs to be empathetic when they are the one seeking help. But apparently we live in this bizarre world where emotions are always right.

Post by IAmBroom » Mon, Dec 15, 2025, 5:25 PM UTC

btilly wrote: post #103

seizethecheese wrote: post #89

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Looks really healthy to me. It’s unhealthy when a partner can’t recognize that they actually were at fault and try to change, but instead needs every fight to resolve with “we were both wrong”.

To add color, this is an interaction that started with one person being stressed. Expecting ideal behavior out of a stressed person is unreasonable.

Post by IAmBroom » Mon, Dec 15, 2025, 5:28 PM UTC

wisty wrote: post #55

btilly wrote: post #40

I think that the real power of spaced repetition is not in flashcard applications like this. It is in behavior modification. Let's take a real example to show how this works. August 19, 2025. My wife called me in to help her decide what to do about a dentist that she thought was ripping her off. A couple of quick suggestions later, and she went to being mad at me about not having heard the problem through before tryi…

> A couple of quick suggestions later, and she went to being mad at me about not having heard the problem through before trying to fix it badly Sounds like you're not the only one at fault lol. Do you get mad at your wife if she offers suggestions before emotionally connecting? And would it still be too late even if she realises how "stupid she was"?

Post by dennisy » Mon, Dec 15, 2025, 7:50 PM UTC

seizethecheese wrote: post #88

Curious what HN thinks about a spaced repetition social network. You could mark items in the feed to space repeat for yourself. This would also function as a “retweet”, which would align incentives such that content that gets promoted is actually durably useful or interesting. The posts people make would repeat to themselves too, so the source content should be good.