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> A couple of quick suggestions later, and she went to being mad at me about not having heard the problem through before trying to fix it badly Sounds like you're not the only one at fault lol. Do you get mad at your wife if she offers suggestions before emotionally connecting? And would it still be too late even if she realises how "stupid she was"?
Part of the reason offering suggestions is 'wrong' is because it implies that they haven't tried to think of solutions to their problem. You are unwittingly implying that you are smarter than they are, even if that is not your intention.
Smart people will even talk to a rubber duck to solve problems, because sometimes there's something obvious you missed.