Odd choice for a Hacker News article.
Shes kind of an e-girl so I guess it makes sense in a way.
Well written article!
Bye, Mom
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#12Odd choice for a Hacker News article. Shes kind of an e-girl so I guess it makes sense in a way. Well written article!
Indeed. I only recognize the name from some pretty bad armchair psychology takes and hobby sociology on trans people a few years back. Nothing compared to what happens on X these days of course.
Still a worthwhile read.
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#13I am sorry for your loss, Aella. I sobbed with you.
“Each passing minute is a greater percentage of the final minutes we have,” and yet “these [final] seconds are so soft”.
Death needs to die, some future dying day, not yet.
from everyone who’s had a mom, we join you: “Momma, I love you”.
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#14Halfway through I realized where this is going. Could not hold the tears. These are tough choices. My parents are alive, getting older. My dad has fairly serious mental health issues. Life has never been easy in a very dysfunctional family. I stayed away from family for many years. Now, I am 41 and these last few years, I have started to realize that I may not have much time with them.
We are busy people but no matter how we try, we cannot bring people back. We cannot make some things different. I think about that a lot. Even coming from a family of abuse and trauma that needed a decade of counseling and healing, I still feel sad they may not be there much longer.
Thank you for a reminder. Thank you for sharing your personal story.
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#15Incredibly well written and powerful post, I teared up.
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#16This reads familiar. My dad died in a similar way at 55, but I didn’t think to ask for a private moment to thank him and say goodbye.
Thanks for sharing what must be difficult to share.
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#17Thanks for writing and sharing this beautifully written, tear-inducing account of a last good-bye.
There's one element that is missing from the story, namely what the consequences of the mother's religious belief system means for how the story continues from the mother's own view (a new beginning) versus the daughter's atheist view (the end of the person, full stop).
Happy Third Advent to those that celebrate it!
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#18Fellow Boisian, this hit hard.
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#20Halfway through I realized where this is going. Could not hold the tears. These are tough choices. My parents are alive, getting older. My dad has fairly serious mental health issues. Life has never been easy in a very dysfunctional family. I stayed away from family for many years. Now, I am 41 and these last few years, I have started to realize that I may not have much time with them. We are busy people but no matte…
Same age and while coming not from abuse but from difficult extreme-christian education I am torn between letting my parents have too much say in my life today.
However as you say: I realise that my time with them is going to end and I don’t want them gone.
Wondering how you found a way to spend time with them and if you openly speaking about the limited time left and the past with them?