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I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Re: I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Post by sodality2 »

satisfice wrote: post #26
scosman wrote: post #7

This feels so much like 90s Wikipedia criticism. There are lousy and lazy ways to use LLMs. There are also enlightening and powerful ways. Find someone curious who will explore them. Don't date people who habitually fight anything new.

Don’t date people who abandon their own agency.

Weird how you let this news story pop up on your screen so indolently, instead of fetching your newspaper from the front porch. You’re abandoning your agency! /s

I don’t mean to say that we should outsource our thoughts to LLMs. In this case it’s clear that even if they had just searched “places for xyz” on maps, it would’ve been just as bad - what they wanted was effort, shopping around + research with pros, cons, and discussions, not just “not an LLM”. Valid criticism!

Re: I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Post by phkahler »

wlesieutre wrote: post #9

> He took out his phone, opened ChatGPT, and asked for restaurant suggestions. Why get close to someone who outsources decisions, including the fun ones like picking where to eat? If someone is so lazy they’ll hit up ChatGPT to plan a first date, imagine how little effort they’ll spend six months in. Do they have a similar reaction to searching "restaurants near here" in a maps app? Practically any time I go out to e…

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Re: I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Post by InexSquirrel »

giraffe_lady wrote: post #17
scosman wrote: post #7

This feels so much like 90s Wikipedia criticism. There are lousy and lazy ways to use LLMs. There are also enlightening and powerful ways. Find someone curious who will explore them. Don't date people who habitually fight anything new.

"Habitually fighting anything new" is nonpolitical conservatism. It's not my stance but it's a pretty valid one, long recognized. There is social value in having people and groups who reject all changes regardless of their apparent merit or sophistication. You can't trick or swindle them, they can't be fooled or persuaded. It provides a counter to the incentives pushing us to change too fast, or without understanding…

Honestly I don't think that's a valid stance to have ("habitually fighting anything new", not your view), to reject anything new entirely based on habit or principle.

It means you don't have a reason for rejecting the thing in question. Just crossing your arms with scowl and pretending things were better in years of yore.

Having a reason why you think the thing is bad, and should not be accepted is the better position to have.

Re: I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Post by anechouapechou »

> I just cannot imagine forming a deep, lasting connection with someone who regularly interacts with a technology that’s kneecapping our collective attention spans

I wonder if she has such strong opinions on social media and short video content.

> I probably won’t find what I value in someone who thinks “productivity” means asking an app to summarize a movie plot so they don’t have to waste their time, you know, watching it.

Reasonable, but it would be very foolish to assume that everyone that uses LLMs uses it in such a stupid way. Everyone is free to have their own opinion, and my opinion is that the author didn't even try to go deep into the subject, just feeling the ick and reasoning it later.

Re: I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Post by JohnFen »

scosman wrote: post #7

This feels so much like 90s Wikipedia criticism. There are lousy and lazy ways to use LLMs. There are also enlightening and powerful ways. Find someone curious who will explore them. Don't date people who habitually fight anything new.

> Don't date people who habitually fight anything new.

Also, avoid dating people who assume that if you want to avoid the influence of genAI you "habitually fight anything new".

Re: I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Post by comrade1234 »

XenophileJKO wrote: post #22
comrade1234 wrote: post #10

I can understand what she's saying. Using ChatGPT produces outcomes that are so mid and basic. Just average. I'd want to date someone more interesting than that.

I mean it "depends on the query". I used LLMs for vacation planning and with the right queries you get some really non-mid suggestions. "Find the most interesting, quirky, or just plain unusual attractions that locals are pleasantly surprised by, searching using {local language}" The models have complex behavior surfaces and when they interact with external data, the dynamics pliable. You can get very much non-basic…

I just tried this exact search and it made where I live (Zurich) sound quite boring. :) I wouldn't bring visitors to those recommended places.

But anyway, the article was about dating and I'd hope whomever I was dating had enough experiences to have their own opinions about at a minimum a cafe for breakfast.

Re: I refuse to date someone who uses ChatGPT

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Post by wlesieutre »

phkahler wrote: post #32
wlesieutre wrote: post #9

> He took out his phone, opened ChatGPT, and asked for restaurant suggestions. Why get close to someone who outsources decisions, including the fun ones like picking where to eat? If someone is so lazy they’ll hit up ChatGPT to plan a first date, imagine how little effort they’ll spend six months in. Do they have a similar reaction to searching "restaurants near here" in a maps app? Practically any time I go out to e…

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Honestly, my favorite places aren't the place I'd want to take a first date. They're casual and cheap and wouldn't convey that I was trying very hard.
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