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Re: Facts about throwing good parties

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Post by sokoloff »

zimza wrote: post #328
sokoloff wrote: post #253

Earlier quoted context omitted.

IQ as a precise, cross-comparable measure? Sure. As a conceptual shorthand to describe the concept of intelligence? No.

The previous comments were talking of IQ in a quantitative way ("x points less"), so they fit in the first definition. Even the second definition is not really a thing. Intelligence as a concept doesn't mean much and needs to be defined properly. Using it this way is just another way to divide people superficially.

> talking of IQ in a quantitative way ("x points less")

I read that as a within a single individual, case A (no brain damage from cause C) vs case B (with brain damage from cause C), where using it as a shorthand for intelligence differences within a single individual makes it a useful shorthand for most readers, IMO.

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Post by ricardobeat »

bigstrat2003 wrote: post #183
ricardobeat wrote: post #106

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> Starts at 2:00. Please be on time. This will not work with south american guests. It's a cultural thing, being a little late (but not too late) is cool; being on time seems desperate or too strict.

I would say personally I don't care if people show up late, but I'm also not going to play scheduling mind games to try to trick them into being there on time. The event starts at whatever time the invitation says. If someone shows up late, I have no sympathy if they are upset that they missed the beginning. But I'm not going to be mad they didn't show up right on time, either. It's ultimately their problem, not mine…

That's ok. It's all a matter of how far you're willing to go to accommodate your friends' cultures. Inversely, they could give an american/european a later time to arrive, because they know you'll be punctual, but would like to spare you from being awkwardly sitting alone for half an hour. Or they could not.

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Post by albedoa »

hitarpetar wrote: post #369
bonoboTP wrote: post #293

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It's the same with dating. The American rules about first dates, second dates, the exclusivity talk etc. is just not how it works in Europe. Maybe with online dating it moves towards it, but the regular way is much more informal and low pressure.

I'm American and have no clue wtf you're talking about

Same. This is completely foreign to me: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=45797794

It's the conclusions of someone whose understanding of America is formed entirely from television.

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Post by someone7x »

hshdhdhehd wrote: post #171
dlisboa wrote: post #14

I feel like this is really an American culture thing where parties or dinner parties are mostly the responsibility of the host. In movies or TV there’s even a common theme of guests judging the host’s hosting abilities. In Brazil you throw a party to people you like and they all have a hand in helping you, sharing the load. Everyone will be responsible for some part of it, all of it is organized informally, there are…

I like that idea as it means yiu are more likely to host a party. It is also less expensive to do so. The UK has a show dedicated to a competition to see who is the best host of a dinner party. (come dine with me). Its a great show but shows the culture. The poor host has to pay for everything, prep, cook while entertaining the guest and usually put on some show or activity for extra points.

I lived in the UK briefly and this episode broke my brain Series 3 Episode 53:

> Host Forbes Robertson, the only man in the group, is Ayr's answer to Donald Trump, and his menu plan includes pigs' trotters, which don't appeal to his guests

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Post by bluGill »

RealityVoid wrote: post #366
bluGill wrote: post #315

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There are a lot of ways to have fun that don't risk brain damage. If you can't imagine them that proves your lack.

Would you say lack of imagination is proof of brain damage?

I know plenty of people who lack imagination who I believe never did drugs (I don't know for sure of course) so I can't call it proof.

It is very common for the addicted to ignore obvious signs of their addictions and the downsides thereof so it probably is a sign, but it isn't enough to be proof. (I'm thinking of an alcoholic who "had a bad ice cube" and now won't drink their whisky with ice)

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Post by [deleted] »

philipallstar wrote: post #261
toast0 wrote: post #147

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> I've never heard of (or thank god, been to) a party where a host is forcing people to move around, especially in an unnatural way. You've never been to a party where you had dispersed throughout the location, and then the host gathered you to eat a meal or a cake (possibly singing a song prior to distributing the cake)?

> You've never been to a party where you had dispersed throughout the location, and then the host gathered you to eat a meal or a cake (possibly singing a song prior to distributing the cake)? This isn't "an unnatural way". I don't know what the point of mischaracterising the previous comments is.

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Post by thimkerbell »

Urban planning provocateur here (me). The writer: (kindaquote) "Create as much circulation at your party as you can. ...take away chairs from tables, leave shelves and counter-tops open for people to rest their plates and drinks" IMO there are parallels here with cities and parking. If noplace satisfactory to leave your car, you circulate less.

Re: Facts about throwing good parties

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Post by thimkerbell »

Esophagus4 wrote: post #325
saghm wrote: post #148

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This is ingenious. If I ever host a house party, I might consider stocking on some cheap glassware just in case (and figure out which friend I can trust to do the dirty work)...

I have been at a party where (as I later found out) the host had hired an actor to be one of the waiters, and she paid him to trip and fall and spill a tray of food. It made the night memorable and got everyone talking and working together to help clean up!

So now we are to wonder if accidents are faked?

The host did harm here.

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Post by [deleted] »

spiralcoaster wrote: post #144
ricardobeat wrote: post #106

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> Starts at 2:00. Please be on time. This will not work with south american guests. It's a cultural thing, being a little late (but not too late) is cool; being on time seems desperate or too strict.

Sounds like the perfect filter then. I'd rather have people showing up to my party that are interested in having a good time moreso than how "cool" they appear.

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