"but who also place a huge premium on minimizing dilution and maximizing founder control. These are the independents. The ones who, by design, want to defer or even avoid VC funding so as to build their ventures on their own timing and on their own terms."
I find the entire discussion about "terms" and getting the best deal for startup founders laughable.
While there are certainly people who are truly unique and doing truly unique things (just like there are people in high school who are so "hot" they can choose which quarterback or cheerleader to date and still get dates no matter how they treat people or people who can go to Harvard, Yale, Princeton or Stanford with fully paid scholarships) I believe most likely the majority of people would be glad to just get funded and would take any reasonable terms to get an investment. By the way, if you, mr/ms founder, are such hot shit there is nothing to prevent you from renegotiating your value or terms later either (celebrities and sports stars do this when they are exceptional, right?)
Getting funded on any terms and having success of course will allow you to move to something else in the future because you will have made contacts and have your ticket punched. If you succeed as we often see even if you fail.
Participants on Shark Tank on TV exhibit this behavior as well. You have a chance to get an investment and advice of, for example, Mark Cuban for your crappy little company with a marginal "maybe" idea that you haven't been able to do by yourself. And you're going to kill a deal with him because you want to only give up 15% vs. the 20% he is asking.
It's interesting how the startup world is always complaining about how they get taken advantage of by VC's, angels etc. and trying not to get "screwed" and playing games. I think they actually are giving the funding sources a run for their money in many cases. Nobody wants to loose out on the next big thing and since they are expecting failure it's not as if they can easily corelate when they impulsively get manipulated and give founders to good of a deal.