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Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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This is why we started Favs - social network for close friends only. No ads, no brands, no influencers. Of course though we’ve had the cold start problem but fundamentally it’s what you’d want if your favorite people wanted to stay connected beyond a group chat. - one to many posts - maps of which city you’re in - upcoming plans - no new inbox either

I hope it people give it a shot one day.

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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Is Tumblr doing fine financially? I used to consume a lot of Tumblr content 10+ years ago, and back then it seemed a wonderful platform (pseudonymity, lack of censorship, little or no ads) but I haven't seen anything from it in a while, which makes me think it may be less popular and so less viable. I would be happy if there's still a small bu thriving community over there, and I wish they'd gone ahead with activityp…

Now owned by Automattic.

Yeah I recall when they started porting it to WordPress's infrastructure and then gave up. But I think that doesn't imply their profitable, so Matt could wake up one day and shut it down.

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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I don't agree that Substack is a place for small niche communities. It seems to me that they are trying hard to turn into a social network - notes, DMs and other features are pushed while more writing related features like code syntax highlighting or tables are ignored.

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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When social media emerged, I remember how excited I was how it could connect like-minded people around the world. Now in 2025, the leader of the biggest platforms is talking about making people less lonely by connecting them to AI chatbots instead of making people find one another. That just feels like a huge lost potential.

>connect like-minded people around the world Traditional forums still exist.

Which ones are the best for the anglophone world currently? I'm struggling to find traditional forums that are still "alive", general enough to cover a broad spectrum and well-moderated to remove all noise.

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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> You don’t need to be 18 to have a bank account, even in the UK (which just introduced age verification laws). Yeah, I had one of those myself when I was under 18 too, I think it was called Maestro or something similar. However, it didn't work like a normal credit card (which I think only 18+ can have), platforms were clearly able to reject it, as most things I wanted to buy online didn't work at the time with it (t…

> Probably the same is true for those cards you linked, they're special "youth" cards that platforms could in theory block? Nope, there’s nothing “youth” about them, they’re more like safety features. The cards I’m talking about act as real credit cards. Plus, I forgot to mention but there are also services (even provided by the banking networks in the countries themselves) which allow you to connect an account (or d…

Thanks a bunch for describing it in more detail, actually very helpful!

And no worries, nothing discouraging, discussing the idea with others no matter their reaction tends to do the opposite for me, so thanks again for taking the time :)

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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A couple people have mentioned this but I think it's worth isolating (no pun intended) for emphasis

We started social media with chats that connected people across the world.

Then we handed over the majority of the Internet to Google who, in their pursuit to build out personally useful services, inadvertently jailed us into a hyper localized bubble

That bubble then became the standard of the Internet, and all sorts of pipes of toxic gas hooked in to the bubble and started poisoning us en masse.

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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A couple people have mentioned this but I think it's worth isolating (no pun intended) for emphasis We started social media with chats that connected people across the world. Then we handed over the majority of the Internet to Google who, in their pursuit to build out personally useful services, inadvertently jailed us into a hyper localized bubble That bubble then became the standard of the Internet, and all sorts o…

Not to say they're fully innocent, but it seems really strange to point to Google specifically on this issue, rather than like... Meta.

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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"exhaustion" is not the first word that comes to mind when I think about social media. At first I was not sure if the article really means exhaustion of the user, but then it says things like "people scroll not because they enjoy it, but because they don’t know how to stop" . Sure, social media is a big waste of time, like gambling is a waste of money and drugs are a waste of health (and money), but do any of these f…

Exhaustion is absolutely the first word that comes to mind for me. Even when I'm not using it myself, I'm exhausted of all the oxygen it takes up in the room

Re: Social media promised connection, but it has delivered exhaustion

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> It is about connecting businesses to customers, not the other way around. A pet peeve of mine is when businesses reject the marketing channel they own (their websites) to adopt platforms like X or Instagram. Use them, yes, but do publish on your own site (and adopt RSS along the way).

except no one goes to their website or uses rss. it is unfortunately a waste of time for small niche group that finds it useful

The way I look at it: social media makes you aware of their presence. Actually conducting business usually happens elsewhere. That elsewhere may be physical or virtual.

Another way to look at it is that depending upon social media for anything beyond promotion leaves you at the whim of those companies. Facebook only let's viewers see a limited slice of information unless they log in. Places that used Twitter as a newsfeed ended up showing chaotic junk when Twitter became X, unless the user was logged in. I was doing a web search yesterday that turned up a lot of Yelp results. I didn't realize that Yelp was still a thing. Judging from the content, it probably isn't. The list goes on. As a potential customer, it leaves me with a very dim view of the companies that rely upon social media instead of supplementing their presence with social media.

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