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Basic Social Skills Guide

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Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by strken »

On the topic of "support your friends", if there's a funeral for someone you weren't super close with but your friend knew well and you're not sure whether to go, I would recommend just going, sitting up the back, offering your condolences if the opportunity comes up, and leaving.

I've failed to do this twice. Nobody else said or did anything, but I regretted it.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by Blackarea »

I wonder why this was written as these very small paragraphs with only a few lines of content? Apart from the hosting issues due to hackernews it leads to a lot of intros and 'in the next section we will learn...' but the actually useful content is quite little and you have to dig hard for it. I'd personally favor a normal article.

Re: Basic Social Skills Guide

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Post by Simon_O_Rourke »

I've worked with lots of folks on the spectrum and to be honest it's more fun dealing with them as team members rather than "normies".

One guy particularly stands out, he joined the team and started off on a solo run with a couple of projects a few others were involved in. A few weeks later I asked him if he'd setup any meetings with the team to get context and, you know, say hello and his response was "why should I do that, can't they read my PRs?". Classic.

Another one was the very loudly self-diagnosed neurodiverse girl, who seemed to just use it as cover for being a total jerk. Eventually she had to be managed out, as she tipped the scale between doing good work and tolerance of odd behaviors too far - screaming in meetings, histrionics and stuff you'd expect more of someone living on a street corner.

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