The article is clearly for a class of women who want to stay single forever, not for men. Most people should be focusing more on having stable relationships with a partner, not into roommates.
The case for having roommates even when you can afford to live alone
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#13Women have such different lives. It's things like this that make it so painfully obvious why single men are isolated and alone in modern society.
on the other hand I've yet to meet a woman that punches holes in drywall when they're mad, I've had 2 male roommates that have
>on the other hand I've yet to meet a woman that punches holes in drywall when they're mad, I've had 2 male roommates that have
This is basically my point. Adult women can live together, adult men cannot.
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#14The case for normalising poverty.
Having roommates (aka sharing a home) when you leave your family home has been the norm forever. Roommates are not poverty
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#15>With six roommates, I would cook a couple dishes a week. Every meal would be multi course, with different people making salad, protein, sides, and maybe mixing up some drinks for the cooks. I've never split meals with any of my roommates when I had them, and I cringe at the idea of asking them to accommodate my own idiosyncratic tastes. I, naturally, have lived on my own since I could possibly afford it. But I can s…
In school, with roommates/housemates, we would very seldom do shared meals (where one person basically prepped the meal) and I do pot-lucks with friends today. But it's not the normal thing. People have different schedules and preferences.
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#16I have lived in “intentional communities” and attest that mature and self capable men and women of all ages can and do live excellently in compact (from [augmented] single home suburban dwellings of a dozen *or more) to ranch style configurations.
It is truly a new level of human excellence. The Epicurean garden of our age.
This has never worked without the WORK involved. People clean, people have a forum for regular discussion, people have responsibilities, and people come and go.
If you want a better life sometimes you have to game up with a better self.
* Once 20 in a single Venice Beach home (close enough to the beach.) there were old VW buses parked in the back yard and rooms with bunks, people paid $400-600/mo. It was wild yet it was civilized. Obviously city shut it down after years working well. It all comes down to good house rule and willful participation.
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#17The case for normalising poverty.
Having roommates (aka sharing a home) when you leave your family home has been the norm forever. Roommates are not poverty
>Having roommates (aka sharing a home) when you leave your family home has been the norm forever. Roommates are not poverty
Poverty has been the norm forever. The idea of economic progress for the common person is barely 3 generations old.
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#18The article is clearly for a class of women who want to stay single forever, not for men. Most people should be focusing more on having stable relationships with a partner, not into roommates.
Why women? It’s written by a woman, certainly, who does offer the disclaimer,
> I understand not everyone is wired like I am.
Why not men? Why would a man not prefer to live with roommates, to split meals and chores and have easy companionship for a cup of tea and a movie at the end of the day?
On the other hand, why should a man not want to be naked around the house, play trashy music at 7am, and bring someone home for the night without worrying about roommates?
What does men and women have to do with any of this, in other words? You’re the second comment to explicitly mention gender and I do not see the connection.
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#19The case for normalising poverty.
Having roommates (aka sharing a home) when you leave your family home has been the norm forever. Roommates are not poverty
Buying an old beater car as your first car has been the norm forever. But that’s because young people still have no wealth, ie they are poor, not because they don’t want a shiny Audi.
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#20Women have such different lives. It's things like this that make it so painfully obvious why single men are isolated and alone in modern society.
Could you expand on that a bit? You’re the second comment to say this is about ‘women’ and I don’t get it - what’s different? Whatever you think is ‘painfully obvious’ here is obviously not landing for me, can you spell it out?