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Re: Show HN: I made a website that makes you cry

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Post by LtWorf »

Lalabadie wrote: post #185
GTP wrote: post #164

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not a psychologist, but I have doubts that this is a more conscious and aware way of going through emotions. If you're so stressed about something that it makes you cry, this is a signal that there is something wrong that you need to change or takle/face in some way. If you're inducing cry once a week to relieve your stress, you're instead trying to silence the signal telling that something might be wrong. Like takin…

Of course, but a lot of therapy in North America nowadays becomes needed not because the patient can change fundamentals variables in their life (job, family situation), but as a coping mechanism for these variables being out of wack with no discernible path to change. Its far from ideal and indeed borderline dystopian, but to borrow your metaphor, it's the difference between a fracture, and a fracture with some pain…

Perhaps some revolutioning would be a better cure then?

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Post by throwanem »

teddyh wrote: post #163
throwanem wrote: post #158

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It is with the confidence of decades of experience I can say that to quote Alan Watts aloud is a sign of desperately needing to read another book.

Is anything in that quote so wrong that it invalidates the larger point the quote is meant to illustrate?

What am I meant to think the experience of providing IT support shares with that of the bodhisattva nature, such that quoting the ever tiresome Watts at paragraph length is meant to aid understanding of either? It's just a lot of self-aggrandizing humblebragging nonsense, "look whose name I drop and you don't." Good grief, in this millennium having had an encounter with Watts doesn't even really qualify anyone as being familiar with the literature.

If one means to say it's not people's fault that computers suck to use and they shouldn't be blamed for exhibiting some emotional dismay when forced to do so anyway, then one may say so clearly and concisely, and without insisting on oneself even by implication.

Re: Show HN: I made a website that makes you cry

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Post by ctrl4 »

alienbaby wrote: post #200
moralestapia wrote: post #195

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I'm curious. Can you share one of those videos? (None of the videos on the site made me feel bad, even slightly.)

Maybe your approaching it from the wrong viewpoint.Crying doesn't have to be because you feel sad, it can come though feeling empathy, or even joy

I cry every time I see the movie Coco. I've found that things that have to do with grand parents makes me cry the most. I've losed my grandfather on covid's because they stopped treating him to focus on younger people.

Re: Show HN: I made a website that makes you cry

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Post by johnnymaroney »

GTP wrote: post #164
johnnymaroney wrote: post #125

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I get that reaction and see how it could sound a bit Black Mirror ish. It's literally just art and curated audiovisual experiences designed to help you feel and process your emotions though. We’re already living in a scifi dystopia where our emotions are constantly being manipulated by social media, algorithms, ads, etc. Feel is an attempt to offer an intentional alternative. It's not about manufacturing emotions. It…

Not a psychologist, but I have doubts that this is a more conscious and aware way of going through emotions. If you're so stressed about something that it makes you cry, this is a signal that there is something wrong that you need to change or takle/face in some way. If you're inducing cry once a week to relieve your stress, you're instead trying to silence the signal telling that something might be wrong. Like takin…

Thanks for your feedback. I'm not a psychologist either but we have top psychologists and neuroscientists on the team and the project is grounded in leading psychological and scientific research. cryonceaweek.com was actually inspired by a Japanese research project that found crying can relieve stress for up to a week.

I would argue that releasing your emotions isn't comparable to taking a painkiller. A painkiller numbs the problem. Letting yourself cry and feel and release your emotions brings them to the surface. I've actually received a lot of responses from people who have told me the site has helped them confront emotional issues they have been avoiding or unable to face.

The app goes a lot deeper than you're describing by helping you understand what you're feeling and identify/label your emotions, receive insights on why you're feeling something by identifying triggers and patterns, and then helping you shift your mood when you need to. It could maybe be considered a painkiller in the moment, but it's also a vitamin that improves your well-being and emotional intelligence over time.

There was actually a new study that came out recently called The Big Joy Project that found that just a few minutes per day of intentional emotional shifts can improve your well-being in a week.

It's super important to me that the project so grounded in sound research so this is a big focus of ours. Appreciate you sharing your perspective and feedback.

Re: Show HN: I made a website that makes you cry

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Post by johnnymaroney »

CMay wrote: post #176

I've been collecting videos for years that make me shed tears. I don't easily shed tears if it feels a little too manufactured. Usually what works best for me is just seeing actual genuine unprompted emotion, though sad scenarios without any emotion can do it if the sentimentality is balanced well. Tried maybe 5-6 videos on the site and none of them worked. :/ Just watched one of my old videos, boom, instant tears. D…

Sorry it didn't work for you! Everybody is different and I tried to include a variety of universally tear-inducing videos. But of course it won't work for everyone. I've found it works for about 90% of people.

What videos make you cry? Curious to see how they compare. Also, not all the videos on the site are sad. Some are happy tears.

Re: Show HN: I made a website that makes you cry

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Post by johnnymaroney »

oneeyedpigeon wrote: post #174

I haven't investigated the site because I don't want to cry right now , but I think it's a great idea! A good cry can be cathartic, and once a week sounds about perfect. I have a 'songs to cry to' Spotify playlist for precisely this reason.

Thank you! Come back when you're ready :)
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