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> But I would still find it very concerning to hear that most young men expect their wives to not work or not make male friends, even if young women accepted it. How is this in anyway related to what I said? Were you attempting to reply to someone else?
I think that choking your partner is presumptively physical abuse, in the same way that controlling who your partner can talk to is presumptively emotional abuse. It’s possible to consent to these things, sure, and if some individual tells me they’ve thought it over and genuinely want it it’s not my place to contradict them. But it’s also quite easy to not consent, or to frame mere acquiescence as consent in response…
Some people have odd kinks. While it may weird you out (and in many ways it weirds me out too) I am far less judgemental about it. If people want to be choked while fucking, well, by all means, as long as I am not involved. Most kinks I hear about are things I have no desire to experiment myself.
> I’m intensely skeptical that this is the one kind of gendered violence against women
Why do you presume that women are the only ones being choked?
And also why do you presume that a consenting adult is actually not consenting to something they are actively engaging in? Why infantilize people like that?