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Post by jenny91 »

xelxebar wrote: post #60
ecshafer wrote: post #8

The Dull Men's Club group of facebook is actually oddly interesting. I would classify it more as a group who point out the very small oddities of every day life that are not very interesting. There is a post where someone saw two geese with 42 bay geese, another where the rental company fixed a door with a piece of pool noodle. Its more like a "huh that's kind of weird I guess" group.

One of my favorite books is The Mezzanine[0], which takes place entirely as a man ascends a single elevator but spins off onto all kinds of tangents that comment on and express exuberance about the most mundane things. There's an entire thread on the evolution of stapler design, elaborations on the invention of perforations, and abundant self-reflection. It's almost like a hybrid of Leonard Read's "I, Pencil" and Heg…

This is my favourite book, it's hilarious and it kind of mirrors how I go about my life: pondering every little detail and how everything fits together.

I'm not sure if it's the same thing as dullness though?

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Post by TurboHaskal »

guicen wrote: post #57

There’s something oddly comforting about this. In a world where everyone’s trying to stand out, some people find peace in just noticing ordinary things. Maybe being "boring" is underrated. You don’t always need a big story to feel connected. Sometimes it's enough to care about small details nobody else pays attention to.

Maybe this is just me and my experiences but when I encounter people in the wild that seem dull I often assume they just have fringe interests that are kinda problematic to share with regular people they haven't built rapport with yet.

Like they're probably into something weird or niche that doesn't translate well in casual conversation so they just keep it surface level until they figure out if you're their type of person.

Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by [deleted] »

_fat_santa wrote: post #31

This is a cool concept but I have an issue with one being "dull" on a conceptual level. Personally I think that every single person on earth is both the dullest person you have ever met and the most interesting person on earth, it just depends on your perspective. I have friends that play DnD which I personally find very dull but hearing them talk about it, it's clear they do not see it the same way. Conversely I lov…

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Re: Dull Men’s Club

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Post by xeromal »

kgwxd wrote: post #93
bonoboTP wrote: post #85

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I obviously don't know anything about you beyond this comment but you chose to include a mention of your divorce, so I think it's not overstepping to try to connect these themes. To be blunt, could it be that being less dull would have improved the longevity of the marriage?

> in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat Even the dullest of innocent jokes, delivered horribly, can get a chuckle in decent company. "Falls flat" means the "jokes" are inappropriate, mean, gross, *ist, etc. The phrase "colleagues or the opposite sex" is a tell.

What the hell is this comment?

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Post by echelon »

lm28469 wrote: post #91
rester324 wrote: post #77

I am a dull man by every measure. I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. But after my kids were born I noticed somethi…

> I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. That's everyday life for the vast majority of people, we got tricked by smoke…

> other people pretend to be doing

Not everyone works or thinks the same. Some goals and passions come from within, and for some people these can be the very reason for living.

One infinitesimal, geologically small moment where the universe is awake and alive and available for you. The world is an infinite blank canvas, and it's full of adventure.

Some people exist to do, build, or explore with their short time. Life is full of energy and opportunity to do so.

Some of these people would find the "traditional life" inescapably boring.

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Post by te_chris »

roland35 wrote: post #96
lm28469 wrote: post #91

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. That's everyday life for the vast majority of people, we got tricked by smoke…

What's funny is when you actually know people who are influencers, it turns out their lives actually are nothing like what it is online! I think we are all a lot more dull than some would like to admit.

I think their lives look extremely dull online too. Prisoners of the most mediocre algorithms

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Post by james_marks »

safety1st wrote: post #86
rester324 wrote: post #77

I am a dull man by every measure. I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. But after my kids were born I noticed somethi…

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I have no idea if this stat is remotely true, but the PSA still works:

men need to contribute around the house and not take their wife for granted.

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Post by lm28469 »

echelon wrote: post #105
lm28469 wrote: post #91

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. That's everyday life for the vast majority of people, we got tricked by smoke…

> other people pretend to be doing Not everyone works or thinks the same. Some goals and passions come from within, and for some people these can be the very reason for living. One infinitesimal, geologically small moment where the universe is awake and alive and available for you. The world is an infinite blank canvas, and it's full of adventure. Some people exist to do, build, or explore with their short time. Life…

Sure, but these people are actually "doing, building, exploring", not terminally online trying to sell you their lifestyle to make money from advertising and partnerships.

For every genuine passioned "influencer" you have 100 000 wannabes trying to scam you one way or another. And let's be generous, even if every single one of them was 100% genuine and well intentioned, that's still just a drop in the bucket, the extreme vast majority of people would fit in the "dull" category, and it's perfectly fine

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Post by tboyd47 »

rester324 wrote: post #77

I am a dull man by every measure. I don't have interesting hobbies, I am not an influencer, I don't post interesting posts on social media and I don't travel a lot, I don't do extreme things, I barely have any money at the moment, I bore others, in fact when I try to amuse my colleagues or the opposite sex, my jokes regularly fall flat and even my voice is dull I believe. But after my kids were born I noticed somethi…

> But after my kids were born I noticed something: my kids loved my voice, they listened to every sentence I made, they laughed at my quirky jokes I made and they loved when I sang to them or I brought them to the park or to the nursery and when I sat them on my neck. My wife took all that from me though, so now I need to fight to get my kids back.

You call yourself dull, but this short comment revealed the opposite picture. Kids are a lot more authentic than adults. Clearly they found a lot to enjoy about you.

> My wife took all that from me though, so now I need to fight to get my kids back.

There's an intense amount of suffering and courage in this statement which you tried to present in such a deadpan, flippant way.

> So I don't care any more what others think of me. I came to accept my dullness and embraced it. If it bores others, I don't care.

That's good, but I don't think you're actually dull or boring. Someone put that in your head and you accepted it.

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