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My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by ak39 »

randomdrake wrote: post #8

Nicely done SteliE. I particularly enjoyed the part towards the end where you discovered meditation was a useful tool. I discovered the same thing a couple years ago; recently, I haven't been meditating enough. The value of it being able to clear all the things from your mind and to try hard to just exist without everything else is extremely calming and, in my opinion, necessary. I really need to start doing it again…

While I would agree that meditation helps to introspect and obtain perspective, I don't think that aiming for happiness (of itself) is meaningful at all.

Yikes, I meant ... you cannot pursue happiness for happiness' sake. It's a byproduct of living. Happiness is an oblique outcome of being - of existing.

I like what Robert Oppenheimer wrote to his brother Frank in one of his letters:

"Everyone wants rather to be pleasing to women and that desire is not altogether, though it is very largely, a manifestation of vanity. But one cannot aim to be pleasing to women any more than one can aim to have taste, or beauty of expression, or happiness; for these things are not specific aims which one may learn to attain; they are descriptions of the adequacy of one's living. To try to be happy is to try to build a machine with no other specification than that it shall run noiselessly." ~ Robert Oppenheimer

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by macey »

ak39 wrote: post #11
randomdrake wrote: post #8

Nicely done SteliE. I particularly enjoyed the part towards the end where you discovered meditation was a useful tool. I discovered the same thing a couple years ago; recently, I haven't been meditating enough. The value of it being able to clear all the things from your mind and to try hard to just exist without everything else is extremely calming and, in my opinion, necessary. I really need to start doing it again…

While I would agree that meditation helps to introspect and obtain perspective, I don't think that aiming for happiness (of itself) is meaningful at all. Yikes, I meant ... you cannot pursue happiness for happiness' sake. It's a byproduct of living. Happiness is an oblique outcome of being - of existing. I like what Robert Oppenheimer wrote to his brother Frank in one of his letters: "Everyone wants rather to be plea…

Interesting point. Though I have to interject that the origin of happiness is so different from person to person that it is sort of silly to make any kind of generalization. In fact, I've read longitudinal studies on happiness that conclude that a person's happiness remains relatively static throughout their life, which provides substantial evidence for happiness being the result of genetics and temperament.

Still, as far as I'm concerned, there's no good argument against aiming to understand what makes you feel happy and fulfilled, and keeping that magic thing in the forefront of your goals forever.

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by SteliE »

ak39 wrote: post #11
randomdrake wrote: post #8

Nicely done SteliE. I particularly enjoyed the part towards the end where you discovered meditation was a useful tool. I discovered the same thing a couple years ago; recently, I haven't been meditating enough. The value of it being able to clear all the things from your mind and to try hard to just exist without everything else is extremely calming and, in my opinion, necessary. I really need to start doing it again…

While I would agree that meditation helps to introspect and obtain perspective, I don't think that aiming for happiness (of itself) is meaningful at all. Yikes, I meant ... you cannot pursue happiness for happiness' sake. It's a byproduct of living. Happiness is an oblique outcome of being - of existing. I like what Robert Oppenheimer wrote to his brother Frank in one of his letters: "Everyone wants rather to be plea…

I have experienced happiness much more as a personal choice than a byproduct of living.

Your living creates certain external circumstances that can lead to happiness or depression. Often it really doesn't matter what the external result is produced by your "living" but how you internally decide to respond to it.

To share one of my favorite quotes on the topic :)

"If you can't be happy with a lollipop - how could you possibly be happy with a yacht?" Richard Bandler

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by raju »

Very very nice. Great job SteliE.

I used to meditate every day, and have fallen off the wagon lately. This reminded me to get back in the practice. That alone was worth it.

I am no entrepreneur (yet) but I think your advice applies well to life in general - it's just a ride - many things that we fret over today won't matter 5 years from now - this, along with "what's the worst that could happen?" can help put many things in perspective.

Congrats on getting married, and your first-born :)

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by niels_olson »

Good talk. Your method of writing down what the worst case scenario falls in line with what is known as cognitive-behavioral therapy, which is the recommended method of working through mild-to-moderate depressive episodes.

In fact, as a physician observing the HN community, I have acquired a folder of bookmarks, "Depression in Entrepreneurs", mainly centered around Andrews and Thomson's analytic-rheumination hypothesis, which highlights exactly that component of CBT as the cornerstone of successful coping: identify the problems, the worst possible outcomes, prioritize, and start working through them.

My brief summary of the AR hypothesis

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Your hippocampus, home of working memory, gets overwhelmed with all the problems. Something like this:

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It's still crashing!? Wait, I have that widget sitting in /usr/bin still. I'm so hungry. Maybe I should take ritalin, I wouldn't be hungry. My girlfriend is totally pissed because I haven't taken her out in forever. I have to make payroll, but I can't quite do that unless I skip some meals, I can't tell Mr Investor that I can't go to lunch, because I need money. I can't talk to my girlfriend about Investor's lunch because it will just remind her .... shit, was that in /usr/bin or /sbin. Payroll. Lunch. LUNCH! I'M LATE FOR LUNCH WITH MR INVESTOR! AND THE SITE IS DOWN!!!! GREP! WHY DID I CHOOSE BSD!

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So, CBT is a hack, which shunts some of that linguistic processing over to the only other area that does linguistic processing: Broca's area. But you need to verbalize to activate Broca's area. So you need to talk to someone. But not someone who's got a dog in the fight, not your girlfriend, not Mr Investor, not employee #1, not your business partner. Because then you'd just be doubling the load on your hippocampus again. So, talk to a counselor, priest, somebody who doesn't have a dog in the fight. Explicitly enumerate your problems, worst case scenarios, and some branches and sequels.

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Here's the current contents of that folder, if anyone wants them...

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2734449/pdf/nihm...

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/06/17/opinion/sunday/how-depress...

http://www.scientificamerican.com/article.cfm?id=depressions...

http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/28/magazine/28depression-t.ht...

http://muddylemon.com/2011/05/depression-burn-out-and-writin...

http://blog.asmartbear.com/burn-out.html

and newly added: https://elasticsales.com/blog/2012/08/03/entrepreneurial-dep...

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by SteliE »

raju wrote: post #14

Very very nice. Great job SteliE. I used to meditate every day, and have fallen off the wagon lately. This reminded me to get back in the practice. That alone was worth it. I am no entrepreneur (yet) but I think your advice applies well to life in general - it's just a ride - many things that we fret over today won't matter 5 years from now - this, along with "what's the worst that could happen?" can help put many th…

Thanks sir! :) Appreciate the kind words & wishes!

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by AznHisoka »

nugget wrote: post #9

I think this is a very under talked-about topic in Silicon Valley. I'm on my third startup after two successful exits and still deal with the "roller coaster" of emotions related to work in this field. I don't think it ever really subsides, at least not for certain people. Like others mentioned I found meditation very useful. Also, I watch Stephen Hawking's documentary called something like "A Brief History of Everyt…

so my ex-girlfriend and her new relationship will eventually die out too? That's a relief...

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by HorizonXP »

niels_olson wrote: post #15

Good talk. Your method of writing down what the worst case scenario falls in line with what is known as cognitive-behavioral therapy, which is the recommended method of working through mild-to-moderate depressive episodes. In fact, as a physician observing the HN community, I have acquired a folder of bookmarks, "Depression in Entrepreneurs", mainly centered around Andrews and Thomson's analytic-rheumination hypothes…

And this is why I had my first screening session for CBT today. Thank you for putting into words precisely what I was thinking.

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by kyro »

niels_olson wrote: post #15

Good talk. Your method of writing down what the worst case scenario falls in line with what is known as cognitive-behavioral therapy, which is the recommended method of working through mild-to-moderate depressive episodes. In fact, as a physician observing the HN community, I have acquired a folder of bookmarks, "Depression in Entrepreneurs", mainly centered around Andrews and Thomson's analytic-rheumination hypothes…

Great description of CBT.

For anyone who's not ready or can't afford to go to a CBT specialist, check out MoodGym - http://moodgym.anu.edu.au/welcome.

Re: My TEDx Talk about Entrepreneurial Depression / Happiness

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Post by p1niu »

One of the greatest speaches I've heard recently. The work/life balance problems are so common among us entrepreneurs. For me the solution was to start jogging regularly - it's almost like meditation and you can just run and not think about your next problem to be solved.

I also like your comment about being happy. Perhaps it may sound a bit hedonistic, but it really is the most important thing in live! Well done.

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