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Galactic search enabled ;-)
lol for some of us i doubt multi galatic multi dimensional searches would yield nothing
and confidence is the most effective quality
he who knows himself and the enemy will not lose in 100 battles
but who can foresee fate's fickle finger of luck?
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> But changing human nature is a tough task. It is up to each of us to self-reflect and then make the effort to self-evolve. The key to this is doing so for the benefit/happiness of others. > There are dark fiction stories about societies with forced honesty Of course. a) It's fiction, b) We must choose to be honest and then make the effort to both know the truth and manifest the truth in not just what we say but wha…
this is very naive and kind of adorable if you look at it in the grand scheme of things nothing really has changed since the days of the theocracy we have gigantic compute clusters that do things what humans would have thought as deities but have people advocating for the return of feudalism we are closer to pride and prejudice than ring world that won't change in the next 1000 years or so regardless of the amount of…
democracy is God's Will, because all our free wills are equal, and we should work together in cooperation instead of against each other in competition
theocracy based upon love has basically never been tried
most theocrats are just doing it for the power, money, and sex, in whichever order
the Wisdom of the lovers of God are also the lovers of their neighbors, but they do not rule nations, or even cities
but they could, if only the people tried to learn the value of compassion
that is the only path to success, all else is compromise, and often a horrible one at that
always love, teach to always love
never hate, teach to never hate
and so, it's just more of the same, with different tech, now in service to the Church of the Almighty Dollar, no matter which denomination
"Same as it ever was." --Talking Heads
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A non-profit dating platform probably means you don’t charge much- which initially seems good, but it probably also means you’ll attract a bunch of users who aren’t serious because they have nothing at risk. So the people who are seriously looking for a relationship will be lost in all the casual users. Sure, you could make people deposit a bunch of money to prove they’re serious but you’ll lose all your users. If yo…
You could charge a lot and only not have dark patterns :-). Nothing says you have to charge a little because you are open-source/foss.
This article claims that only 5% of hinge users find a long-term partner on the app: > The stats are bleak. Industry-wide, only about 10% of users find a long-term partner. Hinge? Roughly 5%. However, this is not what their linked source says: > Tinder is also the most successful matchmaker, with 29.6% of respondents engaged or married to a partner from the app. Bumble and Hinge trail behind at 12.9% and 5%, respecti…
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Not here, please.
If you think that other comment is also bad, I promise not to be upset if you [dead] it.
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An additional truth is that straight women tend to be much less picky about physical appearance than straight men. Despite what many single men will tell you, their difficulty in finding a partner often has much more to do with their personality than their appearance.
That has been my experience as well. The nuanced exception: online dating. During a date looks don’t matter much but getting swiped right? Being photogenic really helps. Which is not the same thing as looks but it plays into it
Online dating is like online chats, people behave differently
After finding my partner on Hinge (following years of dating apps, setups, and in-person approaches), I've reflected on this journey. Despite the countless disappointing dates, the 3-year struggle ultimately proved worthwhile. However, I'm troubled by how profit motives distort online dating. The business model incentivizes engagement over meaningful connections, creating a system where genuine relationships feel lik…
A non-profit dating platform probably means you don’t charge much- which initially seems good, but it probably also means you’ll attract a bunch of users who aren’t serious because they have nothing at risk. So the people who are seriously looking for a relationship will be lost in all the casual users. Sure, you could make people deposit a bunch of money to prove they’re serious but you’ll lose all your users. If yo…
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That has been my experience as well. The nuanced exception: online dating. During a date looks don’t matter much but getting swiped right? Being photogenic really helps. Which is not the same thing as looks but it plays into it
Problem with online dating is that it's designed to make users act based on the profile pictures (mostly). You notice this because in most apps the first and most prominent detail of a profile is the picture. Online dating is like online chats, people behave differently
It is a problem indeed and I decided to get good at being photogenic - comparatively to how I am built/how I look
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Not here, please.
I tried to clarify in a sibling comment, because it seemed like maybe people misinterpreted this comment, possibly because they don't speak Hindi. Does that one help, or am I just digging myself deeper? If you think that other comment is also bad, I promise not to be upset if you [dead] it.
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But I prefer my tools to come with proper instructions on the box. The reason the "tool" works for you is that you are willing to game the system. Everything can be a hammer. Those really looking for a casual hookup rarely are honest about it. The pond might shrink if they are (maliciously or not). This then requires a much more guarded and hard approach for those seriously looking for longterm relationships. There i…
Has it occurred to you that tools are created by people for reasons, which absolutely may be judged both for intentional malice and insufficiently forestalled harmful consequence?
But taking such a stance will make it much harder to move the discourse forward in a positive way.
I am prone to bitterness and dystopic thinking. To combat this I try to find a positive view to move forward.
Humans and humanity is not a force of good. Greed is too foundational in our nature. Our ability to improve based on ideas is our only really redeeming feature. Both a blessing and a curse.