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AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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Re: AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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"may degrade an already precarious online environment"

Not may, will.

Furthermore, I will never wrap my head around why people would use AI for a use-case like this. It entirely defeats the purpose of interacting with people. If you are awkward, with enough time you will either find someone who is also awkward, or someone who doesn't care/finds it endearing.

Having a bot generate dialog for you is a weird step backward.

Re: AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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"may degrade an already precarious online environment" Not may, will. Furthermore, I will never wrap my head around why people would use AI for a use-case like this. It entirely defeats the purpose of interacting with people. If you are awkward, with enough time you will either find someone who is also awkward, or someone who doesn't care/finds it endearing. Having a bot generate dialog for you is a weird step backwa…

I agree

Re: AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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In my experience I’ve found that people can struggle on real life dates regardless of whether they used AI or not. Sending messages back and forth, having minutes or hours to craft a perfect response is far different than having a conversation in person. That smooth talker who said all the right things in text turns out to be nothing more than a fumbling marble mouth in person.

That’s why if you’re online dating you need to be ready to meet in person right away, otherwise you’re wasting your time. A long conversation is not going to make you any less likely to be killed by a serial killer nor does it weed out guys just looking for sex. If someone looks good and doesn’t open with cringe or creepy lines just meet in a neutral place for coffee or drinks and take it from there, you may be glad you did. Don’t overthink it.

AI Dating Bots are a lie sold to people who think better messages are the key to success. The truth is your success has always depended on luck, the right match at the right time.

Re: AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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post #3

Mass-market online dating apps are already a minefield of phony/fake and spammy/scammy content. AI will make it so much worse, so quickly. I wonder if this will spark a return to more old-fashioned methods for finding dates.

Probably will slightly increase old fashioned methods. More likely though it’s going to accelerate social isolation :/

Re: AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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Online "dating" that involves texting is just such a terrible fit.

Most people either have poor reading comprehension or lack ability to write clearly, and that's the worst combo for relationship building.

It's really no surprise that "dating" apps devolve into clicking a picture and hooking up for sex.

Re: AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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"may degrade an already precarious online environment" Not may, will. Furthermore, I will never wrap my head around why people would use AI for a use-case like this. It entirely defeats the purpose of interacting with people. If you are awkward, with enough time you will either find someone who is also awkward, or someone who doesn't care/finds it endearing. Having a bot generate dialog for you is a weird step backwa…

You're completely right.

But people on dating apps are all of: frustrated, desperate, bored, exhausted, insecure, and frivolous, etc

For many (of all genders), any opportunity to distance themselves from those feelings while still imagining some kind of success is going to be enticing.

Re: AI 'wingmen' bots to write profiles and flirt on dating apps

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post #3

Mass-market online dating apps are already a minefield of phony/fake and spammy/scammy content. AI will make it so much worse, so quickly. I wonder if this will spark a return to more old-fashioned methods for finding dates.

almost all of the popular ones have photo verification and you can limit yourself on interacting with photo-verified (Tinder even have ID auth) users only
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