Not an original thought, but I wonder if the answer - or part of it - to the Fermi paradox is that we don't know all the ways it's possible for a planet in the Goldilocks Zone to be otherwise hostile to life. Liquid water and.. chemistry leading to an ambient pH of 2 or 12. Liquid water and.. radiation environment such that proto-RNA strands get immediately smashed to bits by high-energy rays. Liquid water and.. bomb…
The Fermi paradox seems to take for granted that complex multicellular life will eventually develop technological civilization, but there is no reason for that to be true. Orcas could very well be more intelligent than humans, but they are physiologically incapable of building tools. Human hands and visual processing were an evolutionary fluke that took tens of millions of years of natural selection, long before apes…
It's entirely possible that it's far more common place for intelligent life to evolve in a way that allows that intelligence to direct the growth of an arbitrary body shape to solve arbitrary tasks.