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I agree until I discover I'm doing something where I want to access/change that device. It is really nice when I'm returning home early that I can change my thermostat out of vacation mode. I've often wished I had a way to tell if I left a door unlocked. Security and privacy is of course critical to all this, but the concept of internet itself is not wrong.
That's what a VPN is for. Every router I've had in the past decade has had support for running a VPN server so you can have one running 24/7 without any additional hardware. Even my retired elderly parents run a VPN server on their home router.
Does that VPN use certificates or a pre shared key? Do they understand the different security implications between those two choices?