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Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by wcerfgba » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 8:41 AM UTC

jajko wrote: post #343

wcerfgba wrote: post #290

Last year I managed to connect with 10 other trans people in my Lancashire home town. This is a place with zero 'alternative' spaces, let alone dedicated queer spaces. I made a poster using the trans pride flag as the background, and wrote a bit of blurb on it and put an email address on. Then I stuck it up on community notice boards in supermarkets and in a pub window. My idea was that if you put these things in hig…

This would be too risky IMHO ie in eastern Europe (I don't mean sh*thole of russia where this is even much worse, just eastern EU). The general attitude is less tolerant. Most people in general population of course have 'live and let live' attitude, but small part of each country does actively attack such people, ie skinheads or other far right groups.

This is exactly why it's important to find each other, so we can keep each other safe. There is strength in numbers. If you put up your posters on community notice board and use a non-personal email (I just made a new Gmail account for it) then nobody can be identified, the worst case is someone pulls the poster down.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by itake » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 9:09 AM UTC

ETH_start wrote: post #390

itake wrote: post #259

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> The parents themselves are responsible Parents give their kids access to guns and we all know how that ends. If we can't hold parents accountable for their children's violence, I seriously doubt we can do anything about parents failing to parent their kids on this topic. What are we going to do? throw the single mom with 2 jobs and 5 kids in jail because she didn't pay $20/mo for parental controls on her kids devic…

> throw the single mom with 2 jobs and 5 kids in jail because she didn't pay $20/mo for parental controls on her kids devices? If she wants to have children out of wedlock or with a man who are not financially capable of being a provider, then she and her children should bear the consequences of that, not everyone else who know has to have government take over the internet and mandates identity disclosures for perusi…

Society pays the consequences either directly from government or the impact the kids have on everyone else that has to live with adults that discovered porn as a kid before they could understand it.

Kids that discovered porn at an early age will not understand how to process it properly and this will impact their relationships in the future. It is their future partners that suffer along with the kids and family.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by blharr » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 1:24 PM UTC

quesera wrote: post #49

Atotalnoob wrote: post #35

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You probably shouldn’t show NSFW to non-logged in users. Otherwise you could run afoul of various laws, since technically minors can access it

Serious question: Is my browser blocking image content or something? Or is there general consensus that plain body-font sized text is also an NSFW concern?

There are image links to NSFW content

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by Digory » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 1:42 PM UTC

harimau777 wrote: post #339

svnt wrote: post #335

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I’m sorry but business success aside, how else do you propose to do it? Require them to go outside and take a panoramic video including their face that somehow also captures third-party information about the date and time and then feed it into geoguessr?

I think the problem is that laws that are trying to force morality on people.

All laws force morality on people.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by Digory » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 1:47 PM UTC

mmooss wrote: post #379

southernplaces7 wrote: post #282

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>Yes, and that is exactly why Morality in Media (the right-wing, evangelical group behind these laws) Sure, they're major culprits but let's not let the left get off the hook entirely on promoting moralizing censorship of porn too. There are segments of it, especially those in certain feminist camps that hate pornography with a victorian near-evangelical level of scorn and they have a loud voice of their own under di…

Are there many and do they have any influence? I haven't heard anything from such groups. Have they gotten any laws passed, like the age verification laws the other groups have succeeded in passing in several states?

“ We believe we have a moral responsibility to keep porn off the iPhone," Steve Jobs declared in an email to a customer. "Folks who want porn can buy an Android."

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by cubefox » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 3:02 PM UTC

mrgoldenbrown wrote: post #329

whoah111 wrote: post #307

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Please cite the LGBTQ oriented communities you are part of where it is considered polite to quiz people about their genitals.

Please cite the transsexual oriented communities you are part of in which it isn't considered polite to ask people about their preferred pronoun, from which the male/female ratio can be inferred with high confidence. (she: male, he: female)

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by cubefox » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 3:10 PM UTC

meiraleal wrote: post #312

whoah111 wrote: post #307

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> and I would avoid communities where it would be seen as wrong are you part of this t4t community?

He was obviously responding to "and probably most communities?"

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by ETH_start » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 3:47 PM UTC

itake wrote: post #392

ETH_start wrote: post #390

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> throw the single mom with 2 jobs and 5 kids in jail because she didn't pay $20/mo for parental controls on her kids devices? If she wants to have children out of wedlock or with a man who are not financially capable of being a provider, then she and her children should bear the consequences of that, not everyone else who know has to have government take over the internet and mandates identity disclosures for perusi…

Society pays the consequences either directly from government or the impact the kids have on everyone else that has to live with adults that discovered porn as a kid before they could understand it. Kids that discovered porn at an early age will not understand how to process it properly and this will impact their relationships in the future. It is their future partners that suffer along with the kids and family.

If that's really the case, the only person who should be punished is the parent. Everyone else should not be punished with a more restricted society.

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by matthewdgreen » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 5:34 PM UTC

mmooss wrote: post #378

matthewdgreen wrote: post #326

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You can use cryptography to perform parts of verification. Specifically, you can use anonymous credentials to prove to a specific website that you have a credential. But that credential must then be issued by some authority that actually examines your physical "proof of age" (driver's license etc.) and issues it to your device. The problem is that, at least at the moment, simply obtaining a credential like this has a…

> "a person who is specifically interested in accessing adult content." Or at more risk, a person interested in trans content.

And in the very near future, perhaps someone who is interested in accessing non-adult content that simply covers topics that are considered "unwholesome."

Re: Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

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Post by defrost » Sat, Jan 25, 2025, 11:38 PM UTC

moi2388 wrote: post #368

defrost wrote: post #264

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> And I (rightfully) view congregations of transgender women mostly as a (white)-male dominated place. You need to get out in the world more, that's a very limited locale specific PoV.

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/336597435/figure/fi... 68% seems 'mostly'. As does this map: https://worldpopulationreview.com/country-rankings/trans-pop... /ˈməʊs(t)li/ adverb as regards the greater part or number.

With no response I'll assume you've worked out for yourself why your graphs and statistics are bad data.

If not, I'm happy to walk you through some of it - it'd impress more if you can come back with a global average figure for transgenderism and some thoughts on why (for example) Indonesia has such a large population and yet such low official figures (43K IIRC rather than >> 3 million).

Forget the transgender part and think of this as a data exercise.