Show HN: I built an active community of trans people online

Post by thrance » Fri, Jan 24, 2025, 2:52 AM UTC

kenjackson wrote: post #218

Diti wrote: post #198

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With the current politics, how do you expect minorities to trust a product with their identity and (sometimes) life, if you can’t inspect what’s being done with your data?

Real question : how do you verify that the source code matches the code of the service you’re using? Is there some service that builds and hosts and you can verify what it builds against the hosted location?

Post by dang » Fri, Jan 24, 2025, 3:08 AM UTC

achierius wrote: post #178

dang wrote: post #175

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Unfortunately I think it's more a function of forum size than topic. I say 'unfortunately' because there's a nasty feedback loop of site-being-good -> site-getting-bigger -> site-attracting-badness -> site-getting-worse. Sometimes I describe this as "there's a cap on how good HN can ever get", but HN is just a placeholder there for any forum of comparable size. https://hn.algolia.com/?dateRange=all&page=0&prefix=true…

Are you actually the only mod? I'm shocked at how you seem to show up in every other thread, even cases like this where you're replying to a comment that itself was probably not flagged (and thus put on your queue).

Post by gaySithThroway » Fri, Jan 24, 2025, 3:13 AM UTC

mkaic wrote: post #26

asdf6969 wrote: post #21

What’s wrong with Grindr, the biggest app for queer and trans people to meet?

As a queer person who hasn't used Grindr but has heard about it from others, my understanding is that it has a reputation for being more for hookups than actual dating. Heard a story about a gay male friend-of-a-friend setting up an account on it and getting 4 unsolicited dick pics within a very short period of time. Obviously this is just secondhand anecdotal evidence—I'm sure someone who has personally used the app…

Post by influx » Fri, Jan 24, 2025, 3:23 AM UTC

Aromasin wrote: post #158

chimeracoder wrote: post #142

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> If you ask for ID verification to see NSFW content they know hardly anyone would provide it, and at the same time it opens you up to a lot of liability in handling extremely sensitive PII. Yes, and that is exactly why Morality in Media (the right-wing, evangelical group behind these laws) has been proposing them. Their goal is to outlaw pornography (and other "immoral" content) on the internet by making it so diffi…

This seems a little baffling to me because these evangelical groups are uniquely American. There would still exist a huge pornography industry globally, particularly within the EU, that would serve the US even if these groups achieved every goal. It's deluded to think it could be stopped.

Post by fatata123 » Fri, Jan 24, 2025, 3:28 AM UTC

azeirah wrote: post #190

xrd wrote: post #4

As someone who isn't familiar with the norms of this community, the first few posts were somewhat surprising. I mean to say, they were overtly sexual and public. I have many trans friends and gay friends so I'm not saying I've never heard terminology like that, but it was usually in a closed conversation. I wonder if those are spam comments? It would be interesting to hear how you plan to guard against people who wil…

As a little bit of context, a lot of trans people (rightfully) view HN as a (white)-male dominated place, and feel misunderstood and misheard by the people here. A common defense tactic is to become _more_ sexually overt and grotesque than they actually are in reality. A lot of the other thirstposting is, from my experience, very much genuine and heartfelt. The trans community is often quite open. I'm personally tran…