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Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by PaulHoule »

lmm wrote: post #44
scythe wrote: post #40

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think that this is a poor strategy in general if you actually want to "solve" online dating. From the women's perspective, men who are willing to spend money for a dating app are probably not more desirable than average, unless you raise the price so high (probably around $1k) it becomes a meaningful proxy for wealth, and even then that's a narrow market that is already saturated. The buzz about dating apps on male…

> a textbook microeconomic analysis insists that the experience must be worse for women, because otherwise they would use the app! "Worse" in the sense of providing less value to them, sure, but maybe women just don't want as much sex. And it's far from clear that having more men on the app increases its value to women (if anything it might be the opposite).

Also see

https://medium.com/@gettingfrankpodcast/kings-of-the-hill-ho...

and the problem that women often aren't attracted to men who will commit to them until it is too late, see

https://www.amazon.com/Why-Love-Hurts-Sociological-Explanati...

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by asdaqopqkq »

johnnyanmac wrote: post #41
asdaqopqkq wrote: post #29

People looking for "an ethical dating app" are usually incel or incel adjacent. Dating is a zero sum game. Most men don't understand women. I'm saying this as a top 10% guy (IRL and on apps). It's best to acknowledge this and take this into account.

is it really "inceldom" to not want an app to literally rig my matches to not be the best matches until I put X time into it? Look into some of the dark patterns used today compared to 2010 before making an assumption on people wanting an "ethical dating app". Especially in a community skewed on tech.

Sure, it's just that sometimes when people talk abou "ethical" dating and dating apps they are mostly talking about limiting the top guys from taking most of the women or keeping most of the women busy. Usualy via forced monogamy or some sort of forced "fair play". I'm of the opinion that top guys should have a bigger piece of the pie than the avg dude but there should be a limit, something in-between "winner takes all" and monogamy.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by asdaqopqkq »

subjectsigma wrote: post #50
asdaqopqkq wrote: post #29

People looking for "an ethical dating app" are usually incel or incel adjacent. Dating is a zero sum game. Most men don't understand women. I'm saying this as a top 10% guy (IRL and on apps). It's best to acknowledge this and take this into account.

Ethical here means "please don't sell my data or abuse my profile", not "everyone on the app is happy and farting rainbows." A person with third-grade reading comprehension could understand this from the linked article, so I guess you really must have spec'd entirely into charisma

sure

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by krisoft »

Beijinger wrote: post #45

"Duolicious has a question bank containing over 2000 thoughtful and unique questions designed to help us gain authentic insight into your personality" And then do a clustering in n-dimensional space. Forget it, won't work. I am not looking to date a clone of myself. But this clustering approach might work well with resumes for hiring. People hire people with similar resumes.

I don’t know how Duolicious does it. With okcupid you could not just answer the question, but also mark which answers you would “accept” in a potential partner and how much you care about that question from “not at all” to “very much”.

For example if the question was “Do you do drugs?” i can answer it with a “no” but also mark that I’m willing to meet people who marked either “no” or “only soft stuff, like weed”, and that it is a “somewhat important” question for me. But as an other example about the question “What does wherefore mean in Wherefore art thou Romeo?” I would mark that I accept all answers and care about others answer not at all. But if someone else cared about this they could still see that my answer was “why”.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by Pigalowda »

asdaqopqkq wrote: post #29

People looking for "an ethical dating app" are usually incel or incel adjacent. Dating is a zero sum game. Most men don't understand women. I'm saying this as a top 10% guy (IRL and on apps). It's best to acknowledge this and take this into account.

Take a look at this boys. Some real BDE here on HN. We’re blessed today

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by amyames »

lmm wrote: post #43
amyames wrote: post #25

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Duolicious openly mocks its own users on Twitter. Calling them “chuds” and such. I guess if the shoe fits, wear it. But what a childish company to advertise on 4chan and market itself as being for that audience, to then sit there using condescending and derogatory slurs about them. Nice of them to open source everything so you can go make your own Duolicious with blackjack and hookers I guess.

> But what a childish company to advertise on 4chan and market itself as being for that audience, to then sit there using condescending and derogatory slurs about them. Lol. It's just bants, no-one in that community minds. On the contrary, a company that tried to appeal to the 4chan audience without insulting them would be an obvious astroturfer/poser.

Possibly. I tried to follow along but didnt get it/couldnt hang.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by Beijinger »

krisoft wrote: post #54
Beijinger wrote: post #45

"Duolicious has a question bank containing over 2000 thoughtful and unique questions designed to help us gain authentic insight into your personality" And then do a clustering in n-dimensional space. Forget it, won't work. I am not looking to date a clone of myself. But this clustering approach might work well with resumes for hiring. People hire people with similar resumes.

I don’t know how Duolicious does it. With okcupid you could not just answer the question, but also mark which answers you would “accept” in a potential partner and how much you care about that question from “not at all” to “very much”. For example if the question was “Do you do drugs?” i can answer it with a “no” but also mark that I’m willing to meet people who marked either “no” or “only soft stuff, like weed”, and…

Well, I am not especially found of tattoos. But if there is one thing I dislike in dating profiles, then it is a long laundry list of what I have to be and what I don't have to be. Nothing makes you look older and unavailable.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by PaulHoule »

itake wrote: post #42
cyberax wrote: post #37

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That actually is illegal! Our local California restaurant has been (successfully) sued for having "ladies nights out" where they provided discount drinks for ladies: https://www.cnn.com/2024/12/31/business/ladies-night-lawsuit...

you're probably right, but I think this is a bit different. You're effectively selling a gender "badge" on your profile. Either (real) gender can purchase that badge, but if you want to be marked as "male", it costs $20. and if you want to be marked as "female", its $1. People will want to be honest about their gender identity, because being marked as the wrong gender would get messages from the wrong gender.

Some people would have different ideas about all that.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by itake »

PaulHoule wrote: post #58
itake wrote: post #42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

you're probably right, but I think this is a bit different. You're effectively selling a gender "badge" on your profile. Either (real) gender can purchase that badge, but if you want to be marked as "male", it costs $20. and if you want to be marked as "female", its $1. People will want to be honest about their gender identity, because being marked as the wrong gender would get messages from the wrong gender.

Some people would have different ideas about all that.

what do you mean?

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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Post by AzzyHN »

robrtsql wrote: post #5

> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

Wow, I expected a lot more men
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