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Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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I suspect the others are (on average) too self-centered to be serious about dating although some might put on a show as if they were.

Are you literally saying anyone that's not straight only pretends to want to date? Because they are self centered? Seriously? Am I misreading this?

I take back any insinuation that gay, lesbian or bisexual people don't want to date, that's certainly wrong.

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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I like the open source aspect, I've been looking for an ethical dating app for a long time, and based on the README it looks awesome! But then I clicked onto the site, and things did a 180, based on the edgy marketing copy on the landing page I don't think this is the site I'm looking for, as 'normie' as that might make me. > There’s plenty of dating apps out there: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’…

Unfortunately, I don't think we're going to ever be getting an ethical dating app. It may be ethical as far as not charging users to connect, or not trying to keep users constantly staying single so they are always using and checking the app. Without that "addiction" potential, I think even a completely open dating app would fail miserably. If people were able to connect and move on quickly, there would be little rea…

> If people were able to connect and move on quickly, there would be little reason for the app-creators to continue developing.

If an open-source piece of tech is working as advertised, why would its devs continue working on a finished product?

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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I like the open source aspect, I've been looking for an ethical dating app for a long time, and based on the README it looks awesome! But then I clicked onto the site, and things did a 180, based on the edgy marketing copy on the landing page I don't think this is the site I'm looking for, as 'normie' as that might make me. > There’s plenty of dating apps out there: Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, Boo, Hinge. We think they’…

Unfortunately, I don't think we're going to ever be getting an ethical dating app. It may be ethical as far as not charging users to connect, or not trying to keep users constantly staying single so they are always using and checking the app. Without that "addiction" potential, I think even a completely open dating app would fail miserably. If people were able to connect and move on quickly, there would be little rea…

Ethical dating sites are possible and have existed. But they dfintiely can't exist in this current landscape. Like you said, an app who's goal is ultimately to stop people from using the app is not one that will get the funding needed to stand out from all the Match.com shell companies.

> lean into what makes you unique and try to find the same or something compatible in someone else.

This part is cultural though, and the fact is most people (regardless of gender) are not looking for "unique". Quite the contrary. I suppose that is a bit of why the "normie" nomenclature is not as far off as you first think.

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> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

I'm surprised I wasn't as off as I thought. Expected a solid 8/1.

You can't really hit that ideal 1:1 on the internet without a huge mainstream surge. Even then there's a bunch of work after that to attract women.

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Can they charge women $1 to join and charge men $20 or something?

No, because that's illegal sex-discrimination.

I want to hear a better answer than this. Seems like by its nature that any dating app needs sex discrimination.

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> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

Can they charge women $1 to join and charge men $20 or something?

That actually is illegal! Our local California restaurant has been (successfully) sued for having "ladies nights out" where they provided discount drinks for ladies: https://www.cnn.com/2024/12/31/business/ladies-night-lawsuit...

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

#38

Prediction, from the home page, and the OSS branding: This will be heavily skewed male.

Prediction, from the fact that it is a dating app : This will be heavily skewed male.

Hah yes. But I think we have a few orders of magnitude to contend with...

Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

#39

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Can they charge women $1 to join and charge men $20 or something?

I can tell you that as a cis-male, there are many people that sign up for apps like Tinder that represent themselves either incorrectly, don't fit into the filters that are available, or gender themselves in a way that don't mesh well with cis-for-cis relationships. I hope that doesn't come off as harsh or hateful, because it absolutely isn't. I feel like a lot of non-cis people are subjected to a lot of unnecessary…

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Re: Duolicious – Open-source dating app

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> What’s the gender ratio on Duolicious? > Right now the ratio of active men to women is 7.32:1. The ratio can change a lot, depending on which online communities have been talking about Duolicious lately; The ratio’s previously been as high as about 20:1. Admitting this was brave.

Can they charge women $1 to join and charge men $20 or something?

I think that this is a poor strategy in general if you actually want to "solve" online dating. From the women's perspective, men who are willing to spend money for a dating app are probably not more desirable than average, unless you raise the price so high (probably around $1k) it becomes a meaningful proxy for wealth, and even then that's a narrow market that is already saturated. The buzz about dating apps on male-dominated websites is that the experience for men there is bad (because few women), but a textbook microeconomic analysis insists that the experience must be worse for women, because otherwise they would use the app! The app UX is mostly a function of the opposite-gender userbase, so your options are constrained: you might restrict the pool of men by charging, but you consequently make the app less interesting to women, which foils your attempt to balance the gender ratio.

I could ramble further about how I think this happens and what to do about it, but there is one caveat: I have never — hopefully will never — used any dating apps. I rely entirely on what I've read from other people and my own limited understanding of economics and psychology.

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