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> we're assuming perfect communication between the process/driver/hardware receiving the packets and doing the duplicate detection and the process which wants to receive the message exactly once My claim is not that you can provide exactly-once delivery unconditionally. My claim is that if you can provide at-least-once delivery then you can turn that into exactly-once delivery. The word "delivery" is not rigorously d…
I agree with your claim, a recipient can cope with at-least-once delivery by being idempotent. You're right. The meaningful distinction is that something on the recipient needs to be idempotent because the message might get received twice. The application can be oblivious to this, so long as you assume that channel to be perfect. People on the Internet won't like you calling it 'exactly once delivery' because it's no…
That depends entirely on what you mean by "it".
Messages can get lost. So if you want guaranteed delivery, you sometimes have to re-transmit the same message, and so you might end up with the same message being delivered more than once. But it is trivial to put an abstraction layer on top of that to discard the duplicates and make it appear to the application as if every message is received exactly once.
The whole thing is a tempest in a teapot.