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Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

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Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

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I think that making it possible, and encouraging it, is great. Just don't make people feel bad if they decide to spend their lunch time dealing with groceries, paying bills, or going for a walk in the sun.

Exactly. An expectation to perform during personal time is not what the introverts on your team need.

Depends on the introvert I guess. I get plenty of solitude while working on code and I enjoy the opportunity to chat with people over lunch.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

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Our team does this once a month, and nobody is obligated. I personally can't stand it even once a month as I am the only vegetarian on the team, so when they are choosing a place to eat, I always feel like I am making them miss out on their favorite Bar-B-Q resturant.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

#24
One of the impromptu perks here is lunch: a most eclectic group of programmers, chemists, physicists, managers, support, etc. congregate around one large table and enjoy a discussion thread that flows thru technology, philosophy, brewing, literature, linguistics, astronomy, cooking, etc. - often all in one sitting. Indeed, if I'm not there I feel I'm missing out. No pressure to join in, but indeed a great perk if you do.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

#25
I get inundated with conversations, discussions and emails so much during work-time that lunch time is often a good time of solitude for me to organize my plan of action for the rest of the day. I usually take a short walk around London's alley ways while eating my sandwich - nice experience, to be honest.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

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post #15

Not vacationing with your team every holiday? You're missing out. Not living with your coworkers? You're missing out. And so on. The atmosphere described in this article seems stifling, almost like a religious service. That doesn't sound like a good way to foster spontaneous interactions. As others have commented, provide an optional lunch that is not mandated, isn't expected, and where people who don't participate a…

That seems like a pretty gross overreaction.

The article is about a pretty small, close-knit startup serving a free gourmet lunch by professional chef. I doubt anyone there feels like it's stifling and I doubt anyone is thought less of for occasionally doing their own thing.

Certainly this is a Forbes blog and someone may take the idea and try to force it into an environment inappropriately, but arguing that it can never work seems over the top.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

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Our team does this once a month, and nobody is obligated. I personally can't stand it even once a month as I am the only vegetarian on the team, so when they are choosing a place to eat, I always feel like I am making them miss out on their favorite Bar-B-Q resturant.

Our team goes out probably once a week (informally) on Fridays and I feel like I hold them back if I go. I'm not a vegetarian but I am allergic to dairy and eggs which makes it hard to spontaneously pick a place to eat.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

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Exactly. An expectation to perform during personal time is not what the introverts on your team need.

Introverted or not, being able to sit down and converse with your teammates is important. I wouldn't want to work with someone who either couldn't or didn't feel it important to do so.

then do not take my time to do so.

Seems to me there is a great deal of time other than lunch to allow us to bond. Why do some people feel intent on taking my time away to do something they won't give of their time to let me do; as in your meetings are far more important than bonding but my lunch time isn't.

Been there, done that. Its like another management fad that poorly managed companies try to graft unto their dysfunctional culture. They of course fail at it because they don't understand it really is they who are the problem, not the employees.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

#29
At my current company we all eat lunch together (some bring their lunch, others eat out). It's not really a policy per-se but everyone seems to do it.

The only policy we have is of no eating lunch at desks so this gets us all in the same room.

We also have a "Results Only Work Environment" (http://www.gorowe.com) so you're free to do whatever you want, whenever you want, so if you want to get dry cleaning, walk the dog, catch a movie, etc. - you needn't do it over lunch. You can do it whenever.

With folks often out various parts of the day due to ROWE group lunch is sort of an encouragement for everyone to come together and socialize at least once a day.

Re: Not eating lunch with your team every day? You're missing out.

#30
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Earlier quoted context omitted.

Exactly. An expectation to perform during personal time is not what the introverts on your team need.

Ugh, seriously. Some of us just want to do our work and go home, not stick around for a company mandated 'happy hour'.

Where I work the company will occasionally treat everybody to a meal (dinner or lunch) and it is quite nice. It typically counts towards your time (if it is a lunch) and it is optional.

I think the difference lies in who has to pay. If the employee is bringing their lunch or having to pay out of pocket then it may not as go well as if it is paid for by the company. In my eyes, the former is equatable to what you called "mandated 'happy hour'" while the latter is more a way to show appreciation for the work that the employees do.

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