Why doesn't advice work?

Wow! This is something that's been rolling about in my brain but the author has elucidated it in a way beyond the thought and attention I gave this.

Anecdotally, I have seen and `read` multiple founders' posts and comments detailing the mistakes they have made, year after year, month after month.. and I went and made most of the mistakes all over again. I still see others follow the same path.. But why don't we apply the advice we read so often and makes so much sense?

I believe while the reading the articles, the advice resonates and makes sense but when we go into real world, it gets messy.. It is harder to notice the patterns. But one thing is true, when we do make those mistakes, we can then hark back to that advice and realize the wisdom in them. Atleast after that, it gets easier to not fall into those traps again and the advice is internalized.

So, what is the use of writing about your hard-learned advice, you ask?

1. We start noticing the patterns earlier thanks to the memory of the advice humming there at the back of your mind and so the learning is faster. 2. It gives one courage and confidence to get up, dust oneself off and try again, cause others have done that before me or you.

I think this misses a really important political dimension to advice. Sometimes people tell you to do things they want you to do for their reasons, instead of what's in your best interest. It can be really hard to tell when that is happening sometimes. I find my advice is dropped most often when I present it analytically, like people believe there's some hidden motive that's not worth searching for. I get way more engagement by presenting the same advice as charismatically as possible, with simple justification and a big smile.

I think what most people actually want, when they ask for advice, is to be told that they should do what they're already doing, and therefore that it isn't their fault that things aren't working out. Problem is, that doesn't actually get them to anywhere better than where they currently are.

> If you really want to have impact, focus on giving advice that is easy to follow.

Interesting. Tweaking it slightly: advice that is easy for the person you're advising to follow. This requires actually knowing them enough to know what would be easy or hard (including emotionally) for them to do. So, maybe if you don't know them that well, you should be cautious about giving advice...

This statement seems highly abstract - what sort of goals and long term plans should people have?

> And for producers of advice:

Step 0 I think should be "maybe don't give advice". You want to help, you think you're really good, you think it will improve things, but that's not how other people see it. They may seem like they need advice or seem like they are asking for it between the lines, but they just really want to unload or chit chat, or share some difficulty. The answer to that is sometimes to listen and not give advice.

Yes, if someone asks for it, and they seem like they really are interested in it, by all means, give it to them. But in many cases, spraying advice around can be frustrating for both the givers and the (often unwilling) receivers of it.