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I haven't used either so I can't chime in on that front, but long ago I was pretty into Sails which is written by a team that loves rails, but switched to NodeJS so it's basically Node on Rails. I actually thought they discontinued it, but I just searched and it still exists. It was a solid framework like 5 years ago when I used it last so I assume it's quite mature now. https://sailsjs.com/
I think something that is somewhat similar but even more fleshed out than Sails is NestJS. Personally though, I'm just done with server side JS and the dependency hell coming with it.
but I probably should've mentioned it anyway since it has been my node backend framework of choice for quite a while.
I'm kinda with you on that though. I'm actually currently prototyping new services in DotNet Core and am really enjoying it so far.