This isn't a terrible take, but there doesn't seem to be a shortage of people for whom this doesn't feel like a scam.
I'm not particularly fond of the founder hype train, and the typical line is indeed "various risks and blah blah blah" but what's often left out is that employee #1 at a post-funding startup is a pretty different job/profile than co-founder.
Most employee #1's don't have relationships with investors, might not be as employable outside the startup world, and they don't sit on the board, don't have the same formal responsibilities, and rarely are able to raise money to found their own startup -- in fact, this is the often the key reason they're even interested in being employee #1.
It's a market, and as a market I'm not sure it's that skewed.
Want 25%+ of the company? Start it. There's no cabal preventing you from doing that. Have better options than 1% of a likely-dead startup, that pay more and have better WLB? Take them.
After all, few industries give any employees equity. First employee at an ice cream parlor? 0%. First employee of a hedge fund? 0%. First employee of a medical practice? 0%.
Equity grants can be motivating and aligning, and frankly more industries should probably consider them. But not that many people are in a position to found a startup that can raise money (larger equity grants are much more common for pre-external-funding employees) and this differential reflects that.
Btw, "1% of the other 10000 startups that folded" is worth about the same as a founder's 40%: $0. The issue is the middle ground, but there the equity grant is often not worth the paper it's written on: typically the acquirers dictate who gets the money. 1% or 5%, unless the acquirer is trying to retain you, chances are you'll see nothing even if the nominal payout is large.
Anyway, the upshot is what people have been saying for decades: don't do a startup for the money. Do it because you want to be part of that kind of thing, and treat any exit money as a bonus.