An ideal job is different than if you didn’t need money. I have a bit more of a lived experience with this than most. I’m planning to fatFIRE when I have kids going to college.
Currently, I’ve been on a sabbatical for two years. In that time, I’ve spent a good amount traveling and living in other areas. I’m living in NYC mostly rather than SF.
I’m interested in having a family and have been single for a few years. So, that’s why I moved to NYC. I simply couldn’t meet enough single women back in SF. The ratio is really bad in SF. In NYC it’s tolerable. (Check out census data - table b12002)
That’s what I would do because it’s what I’ve done. I’d spend all my free time looksmaxxing and looking for a partner. It’s not a trivial task. I offered my closest friends in SF over $500k if they introduced me to my future wife but no one could even think of a single woman they knew who was single. I wasn’t being facetious - I was 100% willing to offer that matchmaker fee but they knew there was no one. Thus, I had to move and here I am.
It’s better but hard to find someone who is marriage material here. Also, the standards women have here are outlandish given what they bring to the table. I’ve met several women who don’t even make $100k who demand a millionaire husband - lol. That level of delusion is just commonplace.