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Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by Neynt »

personjerry wrote: post #29

One of the most important characteristics in a partner is authenticity. If they didn't think of getting you flowers themself (and had to use an app), is that real?

I think this deserves some expansion.

In receiving flowers, the value the recipient gets is not so much the flowers themselves, but by what the gift betrays about your mind state. This authentic information about your mind state is what makes the act “real”.

So it is reasonable to consider the act less real or even a bit deceptive if the mind state that you’d first expect the act to imply (they care about me and thought to get flowers) does not reflect your true mind state (they cared about me enough at some point in the past to set up this app).

Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by Joakim_Habekost »

pjerem wrote: post #103
bequanna wrote: post #83

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Uh huh. Try having a couple kids and then apply this kind of reasoning. There simply isn’t enough time or energy to do everything you want for your family. If you can leverage technology and good ideas to enhance your experiences and relationships, do it.

Yeah honestly I’d be very happy to be at the receiving end of such an app. (But not this one because I’m pretty suspicious about this mandatory account creation and the fact that they didn’t release in France because of data laws - which are not stronger than GDPR)

Hi, Thank you for your comment, regarding the Data Laws in France, they require a datasheet of encryption for Apple Appstore, something our team have never made before. Otherwise the data law is the same, yes. Any tips are welcome.

Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by Joakim_Habekost »

jmcmaster wrote: post #84
personjerry wrote: post #29

One of the most important characteristics in a partner is authenticity. If they didn't think of getting you flowers themself (and had to use an app), is that real?

One of the ways you become authentic is by practicing something you want to become. It’s doing the thing consistently that leads to character development. Also, if you and your partner value different love languages (my partner is meh on flowers, I spent time in high school doing floral arrangements) then having a guide to help you translate could be super helpful. Disappointed this is EU and USA only for now but wil…

jmcmaster Thank you for taking the time to comment!! Let me know where you are from and I can let you know. I'm working as fast as possible, but I'm also being careful, I really don't want to do anything wrong with the datalaws. So for now we are only publishing when we know we are good, legally speaking.

Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by Joakim_Habekost »

whiddershins wrote: post #116

Edit: I changed a few words to try to make this comment less harsh. I know how much work it is to release a product and it’s hard to hear negative feedback. All I am really saying is: consider why you are adding the complexity inherent in forcing user accounts and such. Just because everyone else does it, is not enough reason. ——- I really really like the idea. Enough to have immediately downloaded the app. My 2 cent…

Hi! I really appreciate your comment, and thank you for saying it so nicely. Not harsh at all ;) It's absolutely amazing to get this much feedback all in one, and I will be sure to make updates to the UI and get-started flows better.

Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by _yb2s »

closewith wrote: post #101
_yb2s wrote: post #80

Lots of comments are saying this is disingenuous, but they are missing the fact that you have to care enough about your partner and relationship to get this app, and actually follow through with the suggestions. There is nothing disingenuous about that, and, frankly, most people wouldn’t care or couldn’t be bothered enough to actually do it. As a busy adult with ADHD, a young kid, and a demanding job it is hard to re…

> There is nothing disingenuous about that, and, frankly, most people wouldn’t care or couldn’t be bothered enough to actually do it. While I agree that there's nothing specifically wrong with using an app to inspire spontaneity, this seems oddly self-congratulatory. Actually, most long term partners manager to surprise each other just fine without an app. Just like using it wouldn't make you a bad partner, it doesn'…

Do they? Most marriages end in divorce, and most people I know in long term relationships are miserable. I think most people don’t manage fine and keeping a relationship strong is a skill that takes practice and deliberate effort to master.

Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by Joakim_Habekost »

manuelmoreale wrote: post #119
Joakim_Habekost wrote: post #115

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think the comment above has been edited, me and my wife did not see the last sentence before now. It's very surprising to me that the Hacker News is so against having an account? Most of the internet requires one nowadays. I will keep following the direction/mood of the comments and react based a whole view, so far around +80 people have downloaded, with 4-5 people talked negatively about account requirements.

“Most of the internet requires one” is not a good reason to require one when one is not needed. By this logic most of the internet is full of ads so you should go ahead and add those. By looking at your site i don’t see why an account is even necessary and that’s probably why people are rightfully complaining about it.

Very true, it is not a good reason, we do this for now due to the security, users calendar, notes, and partner related information is truly personal, so for now it's much more secure. But it's really interesting to see all the feedback, so thank you!!

Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by _yb2s »

Joakim_Habekost wrote: post #115
bhaney wrote: post #105

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Your vision of the world with your app is that people don't use it because of its account requirements?

I think the comment above has been edited, me and my wife did not see the last sentence before now. It's very surprising to me that the Hacker News is so against having an account? Most of the internet requires one nowadays. I will keep following the direction/mood of the comments and react based a whole view, so far around +80 people have downloaded, with 4-5 people talked negatively about account requirements.

I added the last part later because I was really excited to try this until learning it required so much personal information up front just to see what it is. Generally I’m willing to create an account on a platform I trust, am familiar with, and certain will be useful. For this type of thing, I would not expect it to be necessary, so it feels weird, and makes me suspicious. It’s also just a hassle- usually apps like this have a guest mode so you can initially explore without hassle, and then only create an account when doing so is useful to the user, and they are sure they like the app.

It sort of feels like someone asking for a commitment on the first date…

Re: Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner

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Post by Joakim_Habekost »

winternewt wrote: post #91
freshnode wrote: post #79

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Or NZ

Or Sweden.

Sorry, do you mean on Andriod or IOS? (I live in Sweden ... and can download on IOS) If Android, then it is because we are waiting for Google Playstore Approval.
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