less anxious / depressed kids get to do more sports in the first place. kids without "the right attitude" or a lack of innate ability are routinely excluded from sports, as im sure many of us here have experienced.
I coach multiple rec-level soccer teams in my kids ages. I am ruthlessly fair about play time on the field. You may not get to play center midfielder, but you will get the same amount of time. Some of my children are naturally good at soccer and some aren't. Doesn't matter. I don't play favorites with them or any other kids on my soccer team. I started coaching soccer for my kids, because one of my more naturally-gif…
in our town we've met some coaches like you and a lot of others who are not like you. sports are still 90% a popularity contest in my current observation (read my comment later in this thread)