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Re: Funeral Food

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Post by pizzafeelsright »

randohostage wrote: post #35
ufocia wrote: post #34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Was violence involved?

sadly yes and circumstances surrounding has made attending funeral a bit challenging which has made processing a bit hard

Great question.

I lost one of my parents through cancer. There are times I wished they were shot in the alley because at least I'd have someone to be angry at.

Alas my faith determines that it was the parts we play as the world is a stage.

I cope by playing my part. I speak fondly. I forgive and learned to be content with the lack of answers. The if only had to stop. I can't stop every poor choice, bad action, or accident.

Hopefully that helps. The violence done to me in my past didn't lead to death. After about 15 years I was able to forgive my bullies and random people who harmed me for my skin color and faith.

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by throwaway598 »

hinkley wrote: post #17
barbazoo wrote: post #5

I remember when growing up with my grandma in 1990 Germany that after funerals of people that died of "old age", you would always have a get-together afterward to celebrate the person that passed, either at someone's house or at a simple local restaurant. I hope people get together and celebrate when I die. I have fond memories of those social events.

> I hope people get together and celebrate when I die. phrasing might need a little work.

who's phrasing and why do they need a job?

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by majoe »

barbazoo wrote: post #5

I remember when growing up with my grandma in 1990 Germany that after funerals of people that died of "old age", you would always have a get-together afterward to celebrate the person that passed, either at someone's house or at a simple local restaurant. I hope people get together and celebrate when I die. I have fond memories of those social events.

I think the "Leichenschmaus" is underappreciated, both for the communal aspect and also simply for how good it feels to eat good food after the emotionally demanding funeral.

I told my wife, that if I die before her, to cheap out on the coffin and the tombstone and to spend the money on a fine meal instead.

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by AlecSchueler »

semireg wrote: post #2

Both my grandparents died a year ago and with one Catholic and the other Lutheran the food looked similar but tasted oh so different. The Catholic food was decent. The Lutheran food, the turkey sandwiches, the buns/rolls, the gingersnap and whole-date-filled cookies were, forgive me: to die for. Everything seemed to be made from scratch and it made me feel love for the elder women, for how special they treated their…

> it made me feel love for the elder women, for how special they treated their job that day. I want my friends and family to remember me by the good food they had at my funeral.

Would definitely encourage you to ask them about what they made and how. Pick up the skills and insist that your own friends and family are treated to the best food at any future funerals you attend. That's the best way to ensue someone will do the same for you, even if the elder women have themselves died by that point.

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by zo1 »

giraffe_lady wrote: post #38
pvg wrote: post #36

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Where koliva much more ritualized Not where I'm from and the range of the tradition extends beyond both Greece and the Balkans.

Where are you from and how do you eat it? I was actually thinking more of russian and arabic orthodox christians in the US since that's been my main exposure to it.

Not OP. It's more than just ritual in Balkan cultures, it's part of the culture if one can say as much - because the religion is so intwined with normal Balkan culture.

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by pndy »

barbazoo wrote: post #5

I remember when growing up with my grandma in 1990 Germany that after funerals of people that died of "old age", you would always have a get-together afterward to celebrate the person that passed, either at someone's house or at a simple local restaurant. I hope people get together and celebrate when I die. I have fond memories of those social events.

This custom known as stypa (or konsolacja more often today) is still present in Poland - tho nowadays it's easier to host it at restaurants that provide such services for the grievers rather than run it by yourself. People in small towns or villages somewhere in the mid of the country may still opt for organizing these by themselves.

As for the food itself - it's nothing special, you pick your menu.

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by geodel »

pvg wrote: post #8
ggambetta wrote: post #7

This is fascinating. I was born and raised in Uruguay and I don't think food was ever a thing in funerals. You just hang out in a room and are generally sad, but food is nowhere to be seen. I've only seen food in funerals in the movies! I wonder whether this is by country, by religion (and variant of that religion), or what.

The title makes it sound somewhat more specific than it is - it is also about food at funeral and mourning related events rather than just funerals - so it includes things like wakes, 'funeral receptions' and various other forms of remembrance. Edit: although that does make me wonder if the idea of strictly-at-the-actual-funeral funeral food has been sufficiently explored. e.g. dancing pallbearers with coffin but the…

Agree. I also think dancing on grave need to really brought to 21st century. Removing some negative connotation people had in past. It can really about local good, artisanal drinks and of course dance is in the name.

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by selimthegrim »

zo1 wrote: post #56
giraffe_lady wrote: post #38

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Where are you from and how do you eat it? I was actually thinking more of russian and arabic orthodox christians in the US since that's been my main exposure to it.

Not OP. It's more than just ritual in Balkan cultures, it's part of the culture if one can say as much - because the religion is so intwined with normal Balkan culture.

Do Muslims do it too?

Re: Funeral Food

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Post by selimthegrim »

all2 wrote: post #47
User23 wrote: post #40

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Yes, they are very much a specialty of the regional culture. And they’re delicious.

Have you ever had chicken 65 from one of the local Indian places? I've lived in a few different places and the Indian and Chinese restaurants sometimes have regional specific dishes. I've not had chicken 65 outside of Utah.

It definitely exists outside of Utah.
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