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The Rise of the Remote Husband

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Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

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Post by nickburns »

dotnet00 wrote: post #37
ctrw wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Which culture is that?

Western culture, and increasingly Asian culture as well. Anyhow, the stereotype of a man not being able to function without his mother or wife constantly wiping his ass is also just not practical. Every person, at some point is going to have to spend some time living by themselves and thus has to know just as much as a woman how to run a home. It's too late to start to learn that after your mother/wife passes/gets si…

you showed this invalid too much respect. respect.

and considering you apparently still live with roommates, your take on home management in romantic partnerships is all over, around, and on the mark. any future cohabiting partner of yours will be lucky to have you.

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

#42

Post by nickburns »

ctrw wrote: post #38
triceratops wrote: post #34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> I don't understand how people can pretend that home management is an easy job that you can pick up whenever you need. I preferred learning how to cook than take such a blow to my manhood. I mean, that's the one thing real men are supposed to do - put food on the f*ckin' table. It takes a brave man to admit he struggles to put food on his own table, with his own hands, and relies instead on a cook at a restaurant -…

OK, what you said has nothing to do with what you quoted. Mayhaps find another windwill to fight?

bro... you're all but incoherent. want kind of discourse are you expecting here?

i took triceratops's points quite well in response to your rabid projection of your own insecurities. maybe split/divorce and try again? good luck!

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

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Post by bdjsiqoocwk »

phendrenad2 wrote: post #43

This is only an interesting phenomenon in so far as it shows how little progress we've made fixing gender imbalances across various fields.

You're assuming it needs "fixing". A different possibility is that people are choosing the things they prefer and what you see if biased by those preferences. In the latter scenario there's no need to "fix" anything.

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

#45

Post by ctrw »

dotnet00 wrote: post #37
ctrw wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Which culture is that?

Western culture, and increasingly Asian culture as well. Anyhow, the stereotype of a man not being able to function without his mother or wife constantly wiping his ass is also just not practical. Every person, at some point is going to have to spend some time living by themselves and thus has to know just as much as a woman how to run a home. It's too late to start to learn that after your mother/wife passes/gets si…

Fascinating.

So your idea of a healthy cultures are the ones that will go extinct within the next 60 years because they are now so far below replacement every child today will have to support 2 pensioners in 30 years.

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

#46

Post by ctrw »

nickburns wrote: post #42
ctrw wrote: post #38

Earlier quoted context omitted.

OK, what you said has nothing to do with what you quoted. Mayhaps find another windwill to fight?

bro... you're all but incoherent. want kind of discourse are you expecting here? i took triceratops's points quite well in response to your rabid projection of your own insecurities. maybe split/divorce and try again? good luck!

An adult one.

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

#47

Post by nickburns »

ctrw wrote: post #46
nickburns wrote: post #42

Earlier quoted context omitted.

bro... you're all but incoherent. want kind of discourse are you expecting here? i took triceratops's points quite well in response to your rabid projection of your own insecurities. maybe split/divorce and try again? good luck!

An adult one.

an adult discourse—singular. got it, troll. good luck with that, too.

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

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Post by znpy »

nonameiguess wrote: post #18
paxys wrote: post #8

I never thought about it before reading this but most couples I know fall into this category. Probably because they largely fit the "tech guy marries non-tech gal" stereotype.

I don't know that it means anything, but I'm a tech guy married to a tech gal and we still fit this category. In our case, it's because her work project is classified. The company itself allows full-remote work if your project is unclassified, but you can't get a SCIF in your house. It's amusing to me that this article claims it is usually the case that the husband is still not cooking and cleaning even though he's h…

> I'm cooking and cleaning all the damn time.

You don't fit the narrative, so most likely cases like yours are being ignored.

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

#49

Post by dotnet00 »

ctrw wrote: post #45
dotnet00 wrote: post #37

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Western culture, and increasingly Asian culture as well. Anyhow, the stereotype of a man not being able to function without his mother or wife constantly wiping his ass is also just not practical. Every person, at some point is going to have to spend some time living by themselves and thus has to know just as much as a woman how to run a home. It's too late to start to learn that after your mother/wife passes/gets si…

Fascinating. So your idea of a healthy cultures are the ones that will go extinct within the next 60 years because they are now so far below replacement every child today will have to support 2 pensioners in 30 years.

I hope you enjoy living in delusion

Re: The Rise of the Remote Husband

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Post by bglusman »

nonameiguess wrote: post #18
paxys wrote: post #8

I never thought about it before reading this but most couples I know fall into this category. Probably because they largely fit the "tech guy marries non-tech gal" stereotype.

I don't know that it means anything, but I'm a tech guy married to a tech gal and we still fit this category. In our case, it's because her work project is classified. The company itself allows full-remote work if your project is unclassified, but you can't get a SCIF in your house. It's amusing to me that this article claims it is usually the case that the husband is still not cooking and cleaning even though he's h…

I didn’t read that part as saying “they’re not doing these things at all”, just that they’re not staying home them specifically to do them… they’re not “employed” as a “homemaker”, they are working from home. Unclear if you read it this way or are just commenting that you do more of those and you used to, several sibling comments seem to take, from your comment or the article, that this was a focus, and I don’t think it was?
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