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The Rise of the Remote Husband

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good lord, what a take

We've spent the last 50 years telling women they shouldn't be house wives. The results are as predictable as the sun rising.

I don't understand how people can pretend that home management is an easy job that you can pick up whenever you need.

Somehow it's feminist to claim that a profession with thousands of years of history and tradition by apprenticeship is easy enough to pick up in an afternoon when you need it.

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Not all that surprising - "care work" of all kinds, at least if going by distribution of unpaid care work [1], kindergarten [2] and later education [3] or nursing [4], is utterly dominated by women. Almost all care work by definition has to be done at the workplace, whereas (as we discovered in Covid) a lot of traditional "men jobs" (i.e. almost everything outside of mining, industry and security) can be done from home.

It's going to be an interesting next few years, as this shift can and does have serious implications not just on workplace and work condition equality question, but also if it will fuel further discontent among those men who have to go commute to a workplace vs those men who can enjoy the ability to work from home.

[1] https://www.weforum.org/publications/global-gender-gap-repor...

[2] https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2024/02/12/over-96-...

[3] https://stats.oecd.org/Index.aspx?DataSetCode=EAG_PERS_SHARE... (you have to change the filter to "Pre-primary to tertiary education", then scroll down to the totalization rows at the bottom)

[4] https://www.statista.com/statistics/1099804/distribution-of-...

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I never thought about it before reading this but most couples I know fall into this category. Probably because they largely fit the "tech guy marries non-tech gal" stereotype.

I don't know that it means anything, but I'm a tech guy married to a tech gal and we still fit this category. In our case, it's because her work project is classified. The company itself allows full-remote work if your project is unclassified, but you can't get a SCIF in your house.

It's amusing to me that this article claims it is usually the case that the husband is still not cooking and cleaning even though he's home. I'm cooking and cleaning all the damn time. With all the time spent at home, cooking has become my favorite hobby. I am quite often sneaking in prep for some elaborate, showy dinner while waiting for a build to finish or on a call that doesn't require me to present or speak.

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I never thought about it before reading this but most couples I know fall into this category. Probably because they largely fit the "tech guy marries non-tech gal" stereotype.

I don't know that it means anything, but I'm a tech guy married to a tech gal and we still fit this category. In our case, it's because her work project is classified. The company itself allows full-remote work if your project is unclassified, but you can't get a SCIF in your house. It's amusing to me that this article claims it is usually the case that the husband is still not cooking and cleaning even though he's h…

Sounds like you are an outlier.

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good lord, what a take

We've spent the last 50 years telling women they shouldn't be house wives. The results are as predictable as the sun rising. I don't understand how people can pretend that home management is an easy job that you can pick up whenever you need. Somehow it's feminist to claim that a profession with thousands of years of history and tradition by apprenticeship is easy enough to pick up in an afternoon when you need it.

Do you think a woman should have a choice whether she remains a housewife or gets a career? Can a man do the “housewife’s” job?
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