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The illusion of being stuck

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Re: The illusion of being stuck

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Post by mhb »

Part of this might be that, before starting something, you can maintain the illusion that everything will go as you planned. Actually starting requires abandoning that comfortable illusion in the face of the reality of inevitable obstacles and compromises.

Re: The illusion of being stuck

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Post by rwasco »

> I impulssively bought a plane ticket to Panama:

> I cried. Haven’t done that in years.

> I had the uncomfortable conversation with my business partner to tell them I no longer have passion for it and am leaving them the decision to continue or quit.

> I forced myself to talk to strangers every single day.

These also could be explained by someone entering hypomania. How would you distinguish stuck/unstuck from depressed/hypomanic?

Re: The illusion of being stuck

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Post by maroonblazer »

rwasco wrote: post #4

> I impulssively bought a plane ticket to Panama: > I cried. Haven’t done that in years. > I had the uncomfortable conversation with my business partner to tell them I no longer have passion for it and am leaving them the decision to continue or quit. > I forced myself to talk to strangers every single day. These also could be explained by someone entering hypomania. How would you distinguish stuck/unstuck from depre…

3 of those 4 - crying, having an uncomfortable conversation, and talking to strangers - don't seem like symptoms of hypomania. The impulsive plane ticket to Panama is questionable too. We'd need to know a LOT more about the individual to make the leap from that to a disorder.

Re: The illusion of being stuck

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Post by thyrox »

Is there survivor bias in being stuck? We have accepted that people who leap out of their comfort zone end up always successful. But a lot of time this is not true. I know few people who have regretted jumping and making impulsive decision in the name of growth.

Re: The illusion of being stuck

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Post by imbnwa »

rwasco wrote: post #4

> I impulssively bought a plane ticket to Panama: > I cried. Haven’t done that in years. > I had the uncomfortable conversation with my business partner to tell them I no longer have passion for it and am leaving them the decision to continue or quit. > I forced myself to talk to strangers every single day. These also could be explained by someone entering hypomania. How would you distinguish stuck/unstuck from depre…

I don't see the virtue of grounding an empirical wisdom in some species of scientific (mechanical might be better the term?) description. Funny enough, in relation to your comment, I've never met anyone motivated by this brand of advocacy who didn't suffer swings in depression; as if 'science' were some exterior mass whose gravity/gravitas would pull them up and out from the dregs of the swamp by virtue of its sheer presence to mind.
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