The gap I still have in my understanding: One hypothesis is that there is no spooky action. One particle was 'always' going to resolve one way, likewise with the other. Like inspecting 'heads' on one side of a coin 'forces' 'tails' onto the other side. I accept that this coin-hypothesis has been disproved by people who actually know what they're talking about. But to me, this implies that you should build your spooky…
> I accept that this coin-hypothesis has been disproved by people who actually know what they're talking about.
The quantum erasure experiment is to my mind the best example of the spooky action at a distance. The outcome of the particle pairs is measured after the entanglement occurs implying not just "spooky action at a distance" but also in time. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8ORLN_KwAgs