Earlier quoted context omitted.
> there’s no effective defense for a bridge that needs support in more than 30 or so feet of water You deflect it. Failing at that, you direct the force into destroying the ship. Of course, the best solution is no in-water pylons. But that isn’t always feasible.
> direct the force into destroying the ship Nice immovable object you've got there.
You don’t need to dissipate every joule of kinetic energy in the vessel. You just need to redirect it away from the pylon. That horizontal component can be done with bollards and dolphins sufficiently that even a relatively direct original angle should only damage the fenders. From what I see, there were zero such protections around this bridge.
Nothing can protect against a direct hit. But most hits aren’t direct, and those can be redirected without catastrophic pylon failure.