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Self-control signals and affords power
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#72This is something I've noticed in myself and I'm glad there's research to back this, although this is an open secret to those who do master self-control. I've spent the last three to four years working on self-control and discipline after I hit rock bottom in my life and realized I had no self-agency. For me, having greater self-control led me to ensure I can focus on providing value where it matters in my life, and…
I suggest you read this: https://radicalcontributions.substack.com/p/escalation-theor...
It is really insightful about how we train ourselves for compliance, but how that training struggles to cope when we interact with violence escalaters (who are common in some parts of society).
I live near a port town and face and threat of violence is easily visible in men and many women.
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#73IMO simply striving to gain power or money is easier than to achieve greatness and mastery, in general. Mainly because one can lie their way into power and money, countless examples of that both at a local level and global level. Now, mastery requires the opposite of lying and pursuing easy to achieve goals. It’s the hardest path because frustration is constant, and it requires one to keep stretching the limits of th…
> IMO simply striving to gain power or money is easier than to achieve greatness and mastery
While my ego would want to agree the truth is staying in power and making money exponentially isn't easy either, and you can't lie your way to lifelong power and fuck you money because eventually people figure you out, your reputation plummets and then you have less power and less opportunity to make money.
That said you choose what game you want to play, if you care more about your craft focus on perfecting it even though that's not gonna make you as much money as pursuing money for its own sake.
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#74IMO simply striving to gain power or money is easier than to achieve greatness and mastery, in general. Mainly because one can lie their way into power and money, countless examples of that both at a local level and global level. Now, mastery requires the opposite of lying and pursuing easy to achieve goals. It’s the hardest path because frustration is constant, and it requires one to keep stretching the limits of th…
Well said
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#75Winston Churchill said: “A man is about as big as the things that make him angry”.
> But Steve Jobs could also be a tyrant. He was obsessively controlling, and given to fits of rage, throwing tantrums and yelling at employees and board members.
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>Read the internal Tesla employee survey from 2018, where employees called Elon Musk an 'unapproachable tyrant' who fires people 'because of his ego'
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... The list is long ...
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#76Darth Vader is just so much cooler and more menacing than Kylo Ren, and a lot of it is to do with that the latter loses his shit when he encounters an obstacle.
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#77This doesn't pass my sniff test. The results are based on what people say about who "looks powerful" but didn't put people in a position where they actually give power to them . "Look what people do rather than what they say" is very relevant here. Reject and resubmit
> ...you gotta have the self-control first. Then when you get the self-control, you get the power. Then when you get the power, then you get the women. — not AM
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#78Earlier quoted context omitted.
I wonder what do you think about the usage of such training. I have had such trainings for diet control and distraction control but I felt unless one manages to gain a long term control the whole time is kinda worthless. For example I can lose 10 pounds in 2 months with diet control and a bit of discipline. But it comes back quickly once the self control goes away. What is the point? Practicing such self control does…
Part if it is that enjoying it is not the goal, losing the weight or passing the test or whatever is the goal. You're not trying to enjoy yourself, so if the pursuit of the goal is very painful for you, you're not going to enjoy it. But you had a reason to start. Sometimes we encounter very difficult obstacles in our lives and relationships, we get so far out into trouble and unhappiness that it seems impossible to g…
Thanks. For weight lost I guess the initial grounding is to gain a healthier body.
But then again, I probably have no idea what I am going to do with a healthier body.
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#79IMO simply striving to gain power or money is easier than to achieve greatness and mastery, in general. Mainly because one can lie their way into power and money, countless examples of that both at a local level and global level. Now, mastery requires the opposite of lying and pursuing easy to achieve goals. It’s the hardest path because frustration is constant, and it requires one to keep stretching the limits of th…
> IMO simply striving to gain power or money is easier than to achieve greatness and mastery While my ego would want to agree the truth is staying in power and making money exponentially isn't easy either, and you can't lie your way to lifelong power and fuck you money because eventually people figure you out, your reputation plummets and then you have less power and less opportunity to make money. That said you choo…
> you can't lie your way to lifelong power and fuck you money because eventually people figure you out, your reputation plummets and then you have less power and less opportunity to make money.
Surely we do have very notable exceptions to this.
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#80Earlier quoted context omitted.
Part if it is that enjoying it is not the goal, losing the weight or passing the test or whatever is the goal. You're not trying to enjoy yourself, so if the pursuit of the goal is very painful for you, you're not going to enjoy it. But you had a reason to start. Sometimes we encounter very difficult obstacles in our lives and relationships, we get so far out into trouble and unhappiness that it seems impossible to g…
Thanks. For weight lost I guess the initial grounding is to gain a healthier body. But then again, I probably have no idea what I am going to do with a healthier body.
You do literally everything with your healthier body! Every moment of your life is lived inside a body which is more capable of physically influencing the world around you. A big physical change is like going from notepad to vim. It takes time and effort and attention but it's so damn _powerful_. Eating healthier and especially, _especially_ exercising is such a boon to generally feeling good throughout the day. I've never been more motivated, productive, and capable than when i was running every day. It was honestly astonishing.