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Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by xp84 »

dingnuts wrote: post #84
dougmwne wrote: post #68

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Certainly many people on this website could if it were their priority. Some money is required, but not very much. I’m sure I make less money than many here because I take jobs that prioritize remote work and flexibility. So what’s really the blocker for many is a choice of priorities. I won’t have children. I don’t have a strong need to play homemaker or gardener. My lifestyle is pretty similar to a lot of retirees w…

working and travelling on occasion -- "on an average net salary" implies not actually quitting your job -- is not what the GP described. The GP described quitting their job and going traveling for an entire decade, which is an incredible luxury over an enormous timespan that only the luckiest will ever be able to enjoy. The fact that the GP then chooses to treat this gift as though it makes him better than his collea…

You’ve already been called out but I feel like confessing that I thought the “no kids” decision was selfish until I had kids.

For various reasons I won’t bore people with, I now go out of my way to tell young people that they should feel absolutely no obligation to do have kids. Yes, as animals it’s our collective responsibility to bring up the next generation of our species, but that doesn’t mean every individual should, and it’s awful to feel forced into doing so if you aren’t comfortable with the very real risks. And the risks are worse than I ever thought. And I don’t even have it the worst.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by TeMPOraL »

WarOnPrivacy wrote: post #232
TeMPOraL wrote: post #75

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I have semi-regular journal notes going back over a decade, and my experience was opposite to GP - instead of discovering how many things happened in that time, I discovered my mind has been spinning in circles, trying to find solutions to the same problems, and despite feeling otherwise day-to-day, no actual progress has been made . It was an important discovery for me, though not much came of it anyway.

Ugh. I hadn't considered that. I had kids, a biz and a disabled wife. I had to achieve. Even then, some days I wasn't much capable. Other days I forced out results but at a high cost.

Sorry to hear that; I hope you're all doing well now!

I suppose I had too much time to dwell, not enough external pressure to keep my shit together. I have kids now too, but the end result is that I rarely journal anymore - there's always something else I need or want to do, and then suddenly I'm dead tired; rinse, repeat.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by pikamau5 »

Spooky23 wrote: post #141
fufufu123 wrote: post #94

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You're apparently in a good place so looking back is your path to your joyful present. I'm in a bad place so looking back is my seeing back when I was still hopeful for my various life goals. I'd meet someone and have someone to share my life with, do activities with, travel with, raise kids with, etc. I never met that person and now at 60+ that's nearly impossible so looking back hurts. It hurts a-lot. Seeing the op…

My situation is different. I lost the love of my life and felt lost and alone. Even with the support of good friends and family. But that said, there’s alot of philosophy and other things to help. Aeschylus said “Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times.” Another relevant quote is that the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the next best is today. You won’t get what you wanted, but live in the pre…

I feel like living today is the only way to make it through this life. However long or short it may be.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by WarOnPrivacy »

TeMPOraL wrote: post #252
WarOnPrivacy wrote: post #232

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Ugh. I hadn't considered that. I had kids, a biz and a disabled wife. I had to achieve. Even then, some days I wasn't much capable. Other days I forced out results but at a high cost.

Sorry to hear that; I hope you're all doing well now! I suppose I had too much time to dwell, not enough external pressure to keep my shit together. I have kids now too, but the end result is that I rarely journal anymore - there's always something else I need or want to do, and then suddenly I'm dead tired; rinse, repeat.

Adderall reshuffled the deck for me and I started being dealt better hands. Most importantly, I could finally turn realizations into persistent changes.

The changes still took years but having effort pay off was a new thing.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by marginalien »

leokennis wrote: post #43
jvanderbot wrote: post #17

I've been journalling for 10+ years. In addition to forcing me to actually write down what happened that day, reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. I can review my now-wife's rocky courtship and feel grateful we made it. I looked back 3 years ago and found the day our children were conceived :D (we have twins). I can review the anxieties of my PhD years, etc…

I am trying journaling as well but most days I don't know what to write...most days I'm not really doing special things, I have no special feelings. These days are enjoyable because I like my work and love my family, but I don't get further than "went to work, afterwards cooked and played with , in the evening "... What are you journaling on a daily basis?

3 bullets on „what I‘ve learned today“, followed by 3 bullets on „what I will do next“.

This makes sense to me because a) content-wise I consider learning / making sense of what I experience in my life to be both intellectually and emotionally interesting and b) text-length-wise 6 bullets force you to really boil things down to the core

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by smm11 »

jvanderbot wrote: post #17

I've been journalling for 10+ years. In addition to forcing me to actually write down what happened that day, reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. I can review my now-wife's rocky courtship and feel grateful we made it. I looked back 3 years ago and found the day our children were conceived :D (we have twins). I can review the anxieties of my PhD years, etc…

I've been using OneDrive for more than ten years for much the same purpose. Journal folders by year filled with weekly files since 2010, and accessible from any computer, tablet, phone, whatever. And in a folder I can download easily with TXT content.

I'm at the point where everything is a dumb terminal again.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by futureshock »

xp84 wrote: post #251
dingnuts wrote: post #84

Earlier quoted context omitted.

working and travelling on occasion -- "on an average net salary" implies not actually quitting your job -- is not what the GP described. The GP described quitting their job and going traveling for an entire decade, which is an incredible luxury over an enormous timespan that only the luckiest will ever be able to enjoy. The fact that the GP then chooses to treat this gift as though it makes him better than his collea…

You’ve already been called out but I feel like confessing that I thought the “no kids” decision was selfish until I had kids. For various reasons I won’t bore people with, I now go out of my way to tell young people that they should feel absolutely no obligation to do have kids. Yes, as animals it’s our collective responsibility to bring up the next generation of our species, but that doesn’t mean every individual sh…

Sorry to hear that. My mom and two of my sisters and my brother in law all work in childhood disability social work. When I was young I went on a lot of home visits or visited my mom’s workplace. The bundle of joy narrative broke down for me at a pretty early age as I witnessed a lot of heartbreak and impossible struggles. Funny how those stories never seem to show up on social media or only the ones with happy endings.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Post by dougmwne »

scotty79 wrote: post #237
1234letshaveatw wrote: post #73

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I'm sure from their perspective you are the one that stood still lol

I think they just wonder when the uneasiness that throws him constantly around the world subsides and he'll settle down comfortably in his own skin and mind and start living instead of constantly trying to escape from life into the world.

What life is that exactly? What is it that you suppose I am escaping from?
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