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Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Certainly many people on this website could if it were their priority. Some money is required, but not very much. I’m sure I make less money than many here because I take jobs that prioritize remote work and flexibility. So what’s really the blocker for many is a choice of priorities. I won’t have children. I don’t have a strong need to play homemaker or gardener. My lifestyle is pretty similar to a lot of retirees w…

working and travelling on occasion -- "on an average net salary" implies not actually quitting your job -- is not what the GP described. The GP described quitting their job and going traveling for an entire decade, which is an incredible luxury over an enormous timespan that only the luckiest will ever be able to enjoy. The fact that the GP then chooses to treat this gift as though it makes him better than his collea…

> The GP described quitting their job and going traveling for an entire decade

You replied to the person who wrote the GP. I don't see anything in their post that confirms not working - they just work remotely, as the post you are replying to confirms.

> And I could only do that if I was tremendously selfish, like you: choosing to have no kids, choosing to allow the elders in my family to face poverty instead of proper end of life care, etc.

This is deeply unfair. Choosing not to have kids is not selfish at all. By some metrics it's even laudable, but you don't have to go that far to simply not condemn people who make that choice. And you have no idea how much they make or whether their parents are "facing poverty". Perhaps their parents died younger. Perhaps they have excellent retirement savings. Perhaps OP is one of seven children who contribute equally to their parents' care. You don't know.

I'm in full agreement with you that traveling like this is a privilege of the wealthy. But I think the way you condemn it falls pretty flat.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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I've been journalling for 10+ years. In addition to forcing me to actually write down what happened that day, reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. I can review my now-wife's rocky courtship and feel grateful we made it. I looked back 3 years ago and found the day our children were conceived :D (we have twins). I can review the anxieties of my PhD years, etc…

> reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. This doesn't sound right at all. For me, and I suspect for most people, it has the opposite effect. It makes life feel short, fleeting and mundane. Looking back to 2014, I can't believe how quickly the past 10 years has gone. Heck just looking back 4 years, the pandemic years seems to have flown by. It's like a distant…

Life is long, provided you don't just waste your time with nonsense. Even eternity wouldn't be long enough for the compulsive procrasturbator.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

#93
My thought has always been that the ratio of lifetime to any given sublifetime unit of time is always increasing, leading to a change in relative experience. But if you focus on the fact that a second is constant, you always have the same amount of time right now.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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I've been journalling for 10+ years. In addition to forcing me to actually write down what happened that day, reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. I can review my now-wife's rocky courtship and feel grateful we made it. I looked back 3 years ago and found the day our children were conceived :D (we have twins). I can review the anxieties of my PhD years, etc…

You're apparently in a good place so looking back is your path to your joyful present. I'm in a bad place so looking back is my seeing back when I was still hopeful for my various life goals. I'd meet someone and have someone to share my life with, do activities with, travel with, raise kids with, etc. I never met that person and now at 60+ that's nearly impossible so looking back hurts. It hurts a-lot. Seeing the opportunities I missed, the time I squandered, the naiveté that "it will happen when it happens" etc.. I absolutely want to strangle Google/Apple/Facebook when they shove "memories" in my face. I didn't ask for it, piss off!

As for the topic itself. The obvious reason time passes faster when we're older to me is that each day is less of my life. At 1 week old a day is 1/7th of my entire existence. At 60 one day would be 1/22000th of my life.

I also feel it in terms of time left. When you have $1000 in your wallet, splurging on a $50 meal might seem fine. When you've got $75 in your wallet you're unlikely to blow $50 of it on a meal (unless you've got a supply elsewhere). In the same way, when I've have got 20yrs left in my life, some of them probably not in the best of health, then committing 10 of them to move to a foreign country to immerse myself in a new language feels very different than when I've got 60 years left (20yrs old). Seeing your life left clock go down 1/60th (1yr at 20yrs old) feels slower than seeing it go down 1/20th (1yr at 60yrs old). that's 3x faster.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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I've been journalling for 10+ years. In addition to forcing me to actually write down what happened that day, reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. I can review my now-wife's rocky courtship and feel grateful we made it. I looked back 3 years ago and found the day our children were conceived :D (we have twins). I can review the anxieties of my PhD years, etc…

> reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. This doesn't sound right at all. For me, and I suspect for most people, it has the opposite effect. It makes life feel short, fleeting and mundane. Looking back to 2014, I can't believe how quickly the past 10 years has gone. Heck just looking back 4 years, the pandemic years seems to have flown by. It's like a distant…

Agree. When I look at my photo collection it can glance at my entire life since ~1998 to present in just a few moments. It feels extremely short.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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I'm also obsessed with this and have mostly countered it so far by moving house every few years, living and studying in several countries and trying new things. The negative being that I don't have any stability.

How do you deal with no stability? Do you have any sort of home base you can always go back to?

You learn to live with the instability. You come to terms with how short and limited life and life's experiences can be. It can be a lonely life, but it by far can be the most rewarding.

I look back from having diverged from a world where I never escaped my home-town gravity well and I'm glad I took the leap. It made me a deeper, richer, and more interesting individual.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

> reviewing old entries provides a feeling of history that makes life feel soooo long and so rich. This doesn't sound right at all. For me, and I suspect for most people, it has the opposite effect. It makes life feel short, fleeting and mundane. Looking back to 2014, I can't believe how quickly the past 10 years has gone. Heck just looking back 4 years, the pandemic years seems to have flown by. It's like a distant…

Life is long, provided you don't just waste your time with nonsense. Even eternity wouldn't be long enough for the compulsive procrasturbator.

> Life is long, provided you don't just waste your time with nonsense.

Life is short whether you waste it on nonsense or not. It's the nature of human life.

> Even eternity wouldn't be long enough for the compulsive procrasturbator.

Sure. But eternity isn't enough for the most accomplished either. There is a reason why the emperor of china

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/2000-year-old-text...

and steve jobs

https://archive.nytimes.com/well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/06/2...

both wanted to prolong their lives. I don't think anyone would characterize the emperor of china nor steve jobs as 'procrasturbators'.

You make it sound like active people ( who don't waste their time ) feel that life is long when it's precisely the opposite. It's those who don't waste their time who want to live longer because they have so much more to do.

Then again, 'wasting time' is a concern for many precisely because life is short.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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I don't agree that it does. Something I've noticed as I've gotten older is that it feels like time is passing more slowly. My late 30s is when time felt like it passed the fastest.

On the other hand, if you're talking about "that happened two years ago, but it feels like it was yesterday" I agree. I don't think that's what the post is talking about.

Re: Why time seems to pass faster as we age

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I am trying journaling as well but most days I don't know what to write...most days I'm not really doing special things, I have no special feelings. These days are enjoyable because I like my work and love my family, but I don't get further than "went to work, afterwards cooked and played with , in the evening "... What are you journaling on a daily basis?

Slightly different angle: I’ve been digitizing my grandparents’ journals. Something I’ve appreciated is the mundane. “Had a headache. Went to bed early” seeing how often my grandpa was sick was very eye opening to me. “Got the X repaired/replaced. Cost me $Y and it took Z days to finish” “I sat and just visited with $Child. What a good kid. He’s just a teen. He told me about his friends and school” Etc. I don’t know.…

So lovely to read this. My late father was, in his later years, often writing in his diaries at the kitchen table.

I haven’t taken the time to go though these diaries after he passed, but I did take a peek since I never really knew what he wrote.

The little I saw was so surprisingly mundane, like you describe.

I can’t quote it now, being thousands of miles away, but I remember something about my mom making a tasty soup.

I found it endearing but also forgiving, since I’ve struggled with journaling myself. Your post reminded me now that it’s okay to note the mundane.

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