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Originally responding to a flagged comment that stated you were weak for not talking to people in person: You’re not wrong, but the in-person dating pool is small and the stakes are high. I am very recently divorced, dating single for the first time in nearly 25 years after finding my wife stole $300K from the family and had been carrying on an affair for 18 months while I thought our finances and love were at an all…
Yikes. Were there, in retrospect, signs that you missed?
Dating apps for most people seem like a complete waste of time and actually detrimental to your life. There are exceptions, of course, like people much too busy. As a male, it seems guaranteed (probably due to supply vs demand disparity?) that you will only have matches that are significantly less attractive than you. I think most people will consider me average in looks. I don't think I've ever matched with a girl t…
You seem to have an idea of your attractiveness which doesn't match the measurably evidence and yet you discard that evidence. Why?
I get the impression that attractiveness is very important to you. Ironically I think that might be a very unattractive trait.
Yes dating apps have a fundamental contradiction and enshitification is inevitable. But what struck me the most was how amateurish this article was. Citing tiktok users. Overusing phrases. Poor pacing. Its another example of the enshitification of journalism.
I agree -- plus, the author used a smiley as part of a sentence at one point. And this is NPR, no less.
But also let's no get too hung up on this. I'm sure your grandparents/parents generation cannot understand why don't you wear a suit to work.
I have a somewhat unrealistic dream that someday dating apps will be viewed the same way as roads: Essential infrastructure that needs to be handled by the public. A government developed dating app whose only goal is to help people find healthy relationships. All my american friends balk at this. But as a swede, I dont think it is completely impossible. The completely impossible dream would be that we as a society st…
And there it is! I think I have never ever seen an article posted on HN without somebody in the comment advocating for a government takeover. Even for dating apps now! If you examine official policy of the Soviet Union, not even Lenin was _that_ communist.
Tomorrow's article on HN: "How to make my three year old eat his vegetables?" In the comments: "The government should mandate that he eats his vegetables!"
There are three rules on dating apps, and they haven't changed in the last couple of decades: be attractive, don't be unattractive, and inject humor. The fourth rule is to remember that if you want to be treated like a customer then make sure you pay for the product rather than being the product; the fifth rule is to have patience over things outside of your control.
Originally responding to a flagged comment that stated you were weak for not talking to people in person: You’re not wrong, but the in-person dating pool is small and the stakes are high. I am very recently divorced, dating single for the first time in nearly 25 years after finding my wife stole $300K from the family and had been carrying on an affair for 18 months while I thought our finances and love were at an all…
Funny I’m in almost the same situation and have found dating apps really helpful. I’ve been using them for a few months and it’s like a firehose of dates. It’s surprising because they get a bad rap, but I think I could go on a date every night if I wanted to.
I haven’t found a new partner and am just a few months in but have met nice people and relationships.
As an introvert I like being able to better filter and identify people who are potentially compatible.
I’m a man in a 10M metro area looking for long term relationships just using Hinge and avoiding hook up culture. So it’s hard to compare, but so different from 25 years ago when I was last dating.
Originally responding to a flagged comment that stated you were weak for not talking to people in person: You’re not wrong, but the in-person dating pool is small and the stakes are high. I am very recently divorced, dating single for the first time in nearly 25 years after finding my wife stole $300K from the family and had been carrying on an affair for 18 months while I thought our finances and love were at an all…
> after finding my wife stole $300K from the family and had been carrying on an affair for 18 months while I thought our finances and love were at an all time high Yikes. Were there, in retrospect, signs that you missed?
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The Government could also match people based on a political agenda. I don't know why they would do that, but the idea fascinates me. Any creative types want to spin this into a "Black Mirror" script?
Match the similar view or opposite views? :)