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The dating app paradox

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Re: The dating app paradox

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Post by essenddotnet »

pgsandstrom wrote: post #2

I have a somewhat unrealistic dream that someday dating apps will be viewed the same way as roads: Essential infrastructure that needs to be handled by the public. A government developed dating app whose only goal is to help people find healthy relationships. All my american friends balk at this. But as a swede, I dont think it is completely impossible. The completely impossible dream would be that we as a society st…

Given their precipitous fall in TFR, certain Japanese prefectures have actually started taking this approach, most notably Tokyo [1]. I don't think your dream is _all that_ unrealistic

[1] https://japantoday.com/category/features/lifestyle/tokyo-gov...

Re: The dating app paradox

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Post by dylan604 »

quickslowdown wrote: post #3
pgsandstrom wrote: post #2

I have a somewhat unrealistic dream that someday dating apps will be viewed the same way as roads: Essential infrastructure that needs to be handled by the public. A government developed dating app whose only goal is to help people find healthy relationships. All my american friends balk at this. But as a swede, I dont think it is completely impossible. The completely impossible dream would be that we as a society st…

I think it's less insane to trust the Swedish government to implement something like this responsibily than the US government. As a US citizen, absolutely no thank you to a government dating app, it's too ripe with temptation for them to be overreaching and irresponsible with the data they collect.

Where's the conspiracy theories that it would be pairing families and connections more than personalities?

Re: The dating app paradox

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Post by dotcoma »

quickslowdown wrote: post #3
pgsandstrom wrote: post #2

I have a somewhat unrealistic dream that someday dating apps will be viewed the same way as roads: Essential infrastructure that needs to be handled by the public. A government developed dating app whose only goal is to help people find healthy relationships. All my american friends balk at this. But as a swede, I dont think it is completely impossible. The completely impossible dream would be that we as a society st…

I think it's less insane to trust the Swedish government to implement something like this responsibily than the US government. As a US citizen, absolutely no thank you to a government dating app, it's too ripe with temptation for them to be overreaching and irresponsible with the data they collect.

I own NSAdates.com — any takers? ;)

Re: The dating app paradox

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Post by runamuck »

dylan604 wrote: post #12
quickslowdown wrote: post #3

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think it's less insane to trust the Swedish government to implement something like this responsibily than the US government. As a US citizen, absolutely no thank you to a government dating app, it's too ripe with temptation for them to be overreaching and irresponsible with the data they collect.

Where's the conspiracy theories that it would be pairing families and connections more than personalities?

See my comment above.

Re: The dating app paradox

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Post by suoduandao3 »

dotcoma wrote: post #14
quickslowdown wrote: post #3

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think it's less insane to trust the Swedish government to implement something like this responsibily than the US government. As a US citizen, absolutely no thank you to a government dating app, it's too ripe with temptation for them to be overreaching and irresponsible with the data they collect.

I own NSAdates.com — any takers? ;)

no such agency or no strings attached? ;)

Re: The dating app paradox

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Post by thereddaikon »

Yes dating apps have a fundamental contradiction and enshitification is inevitable. But what struck me the most was how amateurish this article was. Citing tiktok users. Overusing phrases. Poor pacing. Its another example of the enshitification of journalism.

Re: The dating app paradox

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Post by ronald_raygun »

Two points on this.

1. I'd say about half my romantic partners have come from apps, and the other half from in person (meeting at parties, through friends, etc). TBH I'm not sure one has been consistently better than another. Sure meeting someone in person for five minutes tells you a lot about potential compatibility in ways that texting via app doesn't. However, how someone constructs their data profile tells you a lot about how they see themselves, which you might not get from meeting someone casually. Empirically, I wouldn't say the outcomes from one source have been consistently better.

2. I really don't think 'enshittification' is unique to dating apps. Look at the internet. Like, recipe sites now all tell you about how special this soup was to the author's grandma and how treasured her childhood memories are of it ... because you spend more time on the site and they can show you more ads. More search results are just low quality SEOd blogs and what not. Tons of software is moving to a service model, because they can get sweet MRR from you, and make more money in the long run. Food, social media, games, etc are all getting engineered to become more addicting. Like this is neo-liberalism.

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