Earlier quoted context omitted.
> wifi has always been like that not for me
Nor for me; I have a 3000 square-foot house and run a single access point; I ran Ethernet to a very central place (we have a centrally located open stairwell between the two floors, which helps) and got a PoE WAP that covers essentially the whole house (if you hold your phone in the very corner of the corner rooms, you can get it to drop).
See clearly we have very different standards. If you're seeing packet loss in the corner of the room, there will also be a fuckton of L2 retransmissions throughout the room. The latter will not be visible as ping loss%, but it has the same effect on p99 latency