You Shouldn't Make Friends at Work
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#12It's hard to spend 8h/day for most of your adult life in a given environment and pretend you're not a social creature at the same time.
I think a lot of people only had acquaintances and confuse that with friendship. Building real friendships at work is rare.
One should not forget that most psychologists and psychiatrists are borderline nut jobs. OK that's just personal experience, but ask anyone who knows these people... crazy drama follows them everywhere. Just sayin'.
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#13It's hard to spend 8h/day for most of your adult life in a given environment and pretend you're not a social creature at the same time.
I think a lot of people only had acquaintances and confuse that with friendship. Building real friendships at work is rare.
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#15I agree that making friends at work has made zero difference to my job satisfaction. Made a hell of a lot of difference on my life satisfaction, though.
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#16Down the line, I believe it is important to be sociable and a “nice guy” at work, but I also believe that making friends in the workplace is very dangerous. It’s a work place, you never know what can happen, you could get fired, or hesitate to jump on a good opportunity outside of the company because you are emotionally attached to “friends”.
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#17Many people will say that they made friends are work. However, the workplace is a competitive environment and those "friendships" get a reality check when it's time to chase that promotion/raise/new position or when things go South.
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#18If they are just someone you talk to at your desk or even go to lunch or drinks after work then if either of you changes job that context is removed.
Meet up with them on weekends or evenings if you want to keep them.
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#19It's hard to spend 8h/day for most of your adult life in a given environment and pretend you're not a social creature at the same time.
I think a lot of people only had acquaintances and confuse that with friendship. Building real friendships at work is rare.
Of all of the relationships I've built at work, maybe three qualified as true friends.
The rest: opportunists, snakes, or at best, fair-weather friends.
Nowadays... I "show up" (get online), do my work, leave.
I prefer it this way. Work has gross incentives for developing friendships.
Another version of not shitting where I eat