Give your love away for free everyday. That's all I can say.
Losing my son
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#42Steven Colbert and Anderson Cooper once had a wonderful, deeply human conversation about grief and loss, which also touches briefly upon Colbert’s mom losing two sons and her husband in a plane crash:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YB46h1koicQ
May you find similar comfort, one day.
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#43I’m really feeling sorry for both the author and his family. Can’t imagine what they must be going through. When I was 10 my oldest sibling went through a coma and after coming out of it some time later she did some things that my parents were not happy about. My family was going through some things and me being the youngest was completely neglected. I was shoved in a room and my family being well off all the problem…
Heartbreaking that you went through all that.
I don't mean to trivialize your situation, but I recently learned about nociception [1] and your condition reminded me of what sucks about it. Ie, the emotional trauma you now live with is almost more debilitating than the initial pain from the earlier events.
It is such a terrible part of our physiology. It intends to protect us from so much pain, but it just ends up taking so much by preventing us from experiencing again. Wishing you the strength to keep working through this complexity and finding peace.
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#44I was reading this article and only at the end did it click that the author is a close childhood friend of mine, but we have since fallen out of touch. Love you, Lars, BT.
This is your first and only comment from your profile that is nearly 12 years old. Sorry it has to be a sad one.
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#46Sad and terrible! Reminds me of a story I read when I was young. An Indian emperor invited a wise man to his court and asked him to write a wish that will last forever. He wrote: 1. The emperor dies 2. His son dies 3. His grandson dies The emperor was furious and ordered him to be punished. The wise man asked if he can have an opportunity to explain and the emperor agreed. The wise man explained that he wrote what he…
Maybe not the best time for that story.
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#47Lars I'm sending you and your family much love
I would hug you guys and never let go
Stay strong and keep your faith
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#48I have to say I'm really humbled to suddenly see this on the front page. Today was a particularly hard day; I won't go into details but taking care of a permanently disabled invalid involves a lot of ups and downs and some fairly messy manual labor to keep them comfortable and in good shape.
I love you all. Hug your kids if you have em.
EDIT: The above blog post here was one of three things I wrote in the immediate aftermath of the tragedy to try to process my feelings and exorcise my dark thoughts. I have two more which you can find below:
The Ballad of St. Halvor (a poem): https://www.fortressofdoors.com/st-halvor/
Four Magic Words (short story, somewhat dark): https://www.fortressofdoors.com/four-magic-words/
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#49The cruelest thing of all is that, technically speaking, his son is still alive. I’d imagine this to be far more torturous.
I have lost many close family members, but they all lost their biological lives. This just seems to be one of the worst experiences you could go through.
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#50I have to say I'm really humbled to suddenly see this on the front page. Today was a particularly hard day; I won't go into details but taking care of a permanently disabled invalid involves a lot of ups and downs and some fairly messy manual labor to keep them comfortable and in good shape. I love you all. Hug your kids if you have em. EDIT: The above blog post here was one of three things I wrote in the immediate a…
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