Not exactly, but close.
When the pandemic hit, my big outlet at the time was rock climbing, mostly indoors. That went from "3 days a week" to "zero" immediately, and when things opened back up it just never recovered for me.
I started spending more time and mental energy on software, even though that's my day job. I've been at this for nearly 19 years and I really care about doing it well. The problem is that seemingly no one else does. I've bounced from company to company (7 jobs since 2019) and they've all been nearly wall-to-wall incompetence. It's just baffling how the industry can be in such dramatically worse shape than when I started in it.
Anyway I have been working on a few things, but just for myself. If my employers don't care about doing anything right I guess that's their problem, but I have problems of my own I'd like to solve.
I wrote a SQL formatter, just for myself, because all the ones out there are terrible. I don't care one tiny little bit if it ever has any users but me. It's not "done" (never will be) but it's stable, and I get to use it now, and I enjoyed writing it over 2 years or so. It has been a purely positive presence in my life, and continues to be.
Now I'm working on a SQL IDE, because again the stuff out there sucks. It will be weird, and built just for me and the way I work. I doubt anyone else will ever use it and I don't care. It will probably take me much more than 2 years to write and that's fine. I try to spend 2 hours a week on it, sipping a coffee in my favorite cafe. That's enough.
And lately, for [reasons], I've gotten back into [politically incorrect hobby]. I gave it up in 2015 for [other reasons] and I've missed it. It has such depth to it, and it just animates my curiosity and drive for mastery. Once upon a time it was what my life-outside-of-work was dedicated to and it can be that again if I want.
I still think about work sometimes on my own time, but I try to minimize it. I let it happen when it's what my brain really wants to do. Otherwise there's just no return on investment. Software companies that will hire me just don't care to leverage my skills, no matter how badly they need them, so I'm sick of fighting for it. If they want to choose failure I'll heat up some popcorn and watch. Maybe someday I'll get a chance to really work on something good again, with good coworkers who also give a shit, but I'm not holding my breath. Until then I'm just gonna do my own thing. No leetcoding. No cloud certifications. No home k8s lab. Fuck all that shit.
Best of luck to you, I really mean that.