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How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by magospietato »

MisterBastahrd wrote: post #10

It isn't. I don't know of a single couple in my personal life or extended group of friends that went poly and remained a couple past 5 years. They all eventually split up. Why get married if you're going to be polyamorous. Seems like a bit of a hassle to tie yourself up legally and financially when you've otherwise thrown all other parts of the relationship to the wind.

I don't think this anecdote nullifies the question. A thing being popular doesn't necessarily mean it is a successful approach.

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by ruined »

joegibbs wrote: post #16

Is it really that popular? I've never met a single polyamorous person in my entire life, they just seem very vocal on the internet.

Statistically, you've met many. So either they just didn't feel the need to bring it up, or they felt a specific need to avoid the subject in front of you.

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by lolinder »

fasthands9 wrote: post #8
hotdogscout wrote: post #3

Because the author got the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon.

The data suggests it truly is more popular. The Gallup poll below shows that the percent of people who find it "acceptable" has tripled since 2000. The generational data, which admittedly would be more useful if it was over time, still shows younger generations are more into it. https://news.gallup.com/opinion/polling-matters/313112/under... https://sexualalpha.com/polyamory-statistics/ What data or info do you have…

Note that Gallup changed the question in 2011: before the question defined polygamy as "when one husband has more than one wife at the same time", after 2011 it was defined as "when a married person has more than one spouse at the same time".

That may not account for the slope post-2011, but it's a significant enough difference that it's important to call it out. A lot of people who were opposed to polygamy when it was framed as patriarchal switched their opinion when it was made gender-neutral.

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by cdot2 »

ryandrake wrote: post #18
irrational wrote: post #5

I’m convinced this is the next big legal/political marriage change after gay marriage. Though, this one might be a bit harder for developers. I imagine most government databases are setup to assume a 1-to-1 marriage relationship rather than a many-to-many relationship.

There will be plenty of time to fix the code. Like most social change, it will be politicized, fought against bitterly by the usual suspects, and the battle will drag on until enough of the detractors die of old age so that finally another piece of society can move on. We'll have entirely different databases by the time the 1:1 mappings have to be fixed.

Would you have said any different about prohibition or eugenics in the 1920s? The progressive causes of that time period

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by twic »

irrational wrote: post #5

I’m convinced this is the next big legal/political marriage change after gay marriage. Though, this one might be a bit harder for developers. I imagine most government databases are setup to assume a 1-to-1 marriage relationship rather than a many-to-many relationship.

Nah, we'll just use the existing spouse_id field in the records to set up a circular linked list through the polycule. A conventional two-person marriage is just a special case of that anyway.

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by [deleted] »

fasthands9 wrote: post #8
hotdogscout wrote: post #3

Because the author got the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon.

The data suggests it truly is more popular. The Gallup poll below shows that the percent of people who find it "acceptable" has tripled since 2000. The generational data, which admittedly would be more useful if it was over time, still shows younger generations are more into it. https://news.gallup.com/opinion/polling-matters/313112/under... https://sexualalpha.com/polyamory-statistics/ What data or info do you have…

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Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by manuelabeledo »

irrational wrote: post #5

I’m convinced this is the next big legal/political marriage change after gay marriage. Though, this one might be a bit harder for developers. I imagine most government databases are setup to assume a 1-to-1 marriage relationship rather than a many-to-many relationship.

Nice. Haven't yet gotten over timezones, now this.

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by shepherdjerred »

irrational wrote: post #5

I’m convinced this is the next big legal/political marriage change after gay marriage. Though, this one might be a bit harder for developers. I imagine most government databases are setup to assume a 1-to-1 marriage relationship rather than a many-to-many relationship.

It’s hilarious (in a good way) in threads like these that someone always bring up a pretty trivial aspect that, though relevant to the forum, is tiny compared to the other effects

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by voidwtf »

joegibbs wrote: post #16

Is it really that popular? I've never met a single polyamorous person in my entire life, they just seem very vocal on the internet.

Pretty common in the Tampa area, but it's definitely an iykyk type of thing. If you don't pass the vibe check it's not something that will be brought up in casual discussion.
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