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How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by drekipus »

Quinzel wrote: post #7

If I felt secure in a relationship, having a partner that wants to experiment with others/date others wouldn’t really bother me. Everyone likes a little novelty from time to time.

If you felt secure in the relationship you probably wouldn't feel the need.

The desire for novelty comes from bored or unfulfilled from your current relationship, which would contest the "security" of the relationship if it is impossible to live without it.

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Post by api »

irrational wrote: post #5

I’m convinced this is the next big legal/political marriage change after gay marriage. Though, this one might be a bit harder for developers. I imagine most government databases are setup to assume a 1-to-1 marriage relationship rather than a many-to-many relationship.

Every relationship in a relational database eventually requires a join table.

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Post by magospietato »

irrational wrote: post #5

I’m convinced this is the next big legal/political marriage change after gay marriage. Though, this one might be a bit harder for developers. I imagine most government databases are setup to assume a 1-to-1 marriage relationship rather than a many-to-many relationship.

It's Christmas, why do you have to be giving me panic attacks like this ;-)

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Post by jurynulifcation »

Podgajski wrote: post #6

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I'm not spiritual, I'm entirely materialistic and hold no stock in notions of the metaphysical, but I'm neither of the right nor left.

To me your comment is the outcome of smug, baseless superiority. Before you disagree with me on this think about it.

Assuming you're speaking only of those people, then whatever. Fair dues, I suppose you know them better than I do.

If your comment is meant to be generalized then lol. lmao, even. Why do you believe polyamory is necessarily a consequence of boredom, greed, and selfishness? Why is your preferred relationship dynamic the one borne out of the correct social dynamics? (Hint: I highly doubt this as a premise.)

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by demondemidi »

I think people are confusing poly with open. Open is just consensually fucking other people typically without any commitment. Poly is basically a serious relationship with multiple people. The biggest challenge to real poly is dealing with legit feelings of jealousy, commitment, loyalty, authenticity… I think they two are confused often.

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Post by ryandrake »

irrational wrote: post #5

I’m convinced this is the next big legal/political marriage change after gay marriage. Though, this one might be a bit harder for developers. I imagine most government databases are setup to assume a 1-to-1 marriage relationship rather than a many-to-many relationship.

There will be plenty of time to fix the code. Like most social change, it will be politicized, fought against bitterly by the usual suspects, and the battle will drag on until enough of the detractors die of old age so that finally another piece of society can move on. We'll have entirely different databases by the time the 1:1 mappings have to be fixed.

Re: How Did Polyamory Become So Popular?

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Post by hintymad »

I wonder how middle-aged couples deal with the sexual desires. Numerous reports, let alone anecdotes and shows, mentioned that couples with each other for many years lost sexual desire towards each other, while their libido still flowed free. To quote one of such publications: "Sexual arousal and desire appear to decrease in response to partner familiarity and increase in response to partner novelty".

I guess it's a little price to pay for a stable marriage?

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