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Things you're allowed to do (2020)
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#222Earlier quoted context omitted.
For me it's mostly vibe and ambiance issue with the restaurants. "Fast food" restaurants that serve your meal quickly are usually friendly to single person. Maybe a community curated list of places that are friendly to solo diners would be helpful? I have a few that I visit often.
At my club in London we have the club table (seats 24) set aside for those who are dining alone. It's an interesting way to meet people from time to time and you can bring a book down from the library or get your e-reader out if there is no one else. You can't introduce non-members unless no one at the table objects.
How does one join such a club? (The spirit of the article dictates that I’m allowed to ask about it ;) )
Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)
#223I don't see this on the list but "Do things by yourself" is one I'd add. Lots of people seem to have a thing against Going to the Movies, Eating at a restaurant or attending an event/concert/museum without a friend/partner. Trust me it's not unusual and everybody is not staring at you.
Honestly it’s not the shame that make me avoid this but it’s more the lack of sense I feel to an experience if I don’t share it with someone. As an example, I have no issue eating alone in a restaurant if it’s needed and I can even appreciate the loneliness when it happens but I can’t see the interest to go out alone on my own. But I can acknowledge that maybe I’m missing something.
Sounds like the way I usually feel silly to go to a movie alone. This must be some kind of marketing thing because it’s like the least social experience yet we are told that movies = date (LOL!) or friends outing.
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#224Earlier quoted context omitted.
>Why would you want buy/sell services with your friends? To get a better deal? No, as the article says, to support artists and the like. Maybe you have a friend who paints, or makes jewelry, or has a band that sells CDs of their music. The point is to support these endeavors (and hopefully you enjoy the results).
I can get behind that. Sure, support a friend that needs a client. I would just make sure I want to be treated like any other client. But my experience is that these types of transactions are a drop in the ocean. Probably less than 1%. Most transactions is when somebody needs something and the just happen to have a friend that does this and they think they can get a better deal.
A lot of people don't have an ocean of transactions. Either because they're struggling or because they've recently pivoted into that space. Every little drop counts in those cases.
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#225Read the article by atul gawande linke in thee. As a programmer i do wonder what has caused my performance in terms of learning longer, massive subjects to peak. I think as a kid I used to just storm and power through learning things, even though my technique was still flawed. I just applied shear will power to get through hard subjects I had no fucking clue about. I picked and learnt pre modern C++ to build NNets as…
I found that article about coaching very compelling. There's a few areas in my life where I've found that I've hit the limit of my capabilities (or find myself regressing) but I haven't been willing to expose myself in the way that the article describes.
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#226Things you can also do: nothing on this list. Seriously, a list like this often makes one feel like one is not getting most out of life, but realistically most these things are not for everyone. Good to be reminded about the agency of one's decisions, but you do you.
It reminds me that one cant get everything out of life ~ but it's worth trying!
Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)
#227Earlier quoted context omitted.
At my club in London we have the club table (seats 24) set aside for those who are dining alone. It's an interesting way to meet people from time to time and you can bring a book down from the library or get your e-reader out if there is no one else. You can't introduce non-members unless no one at the table objects.
How does one join such a club? (The spirit of the article dictates that I’m allowed to ask about it ;) )
Usually clubs require that 2 (or more) people introduce you. This can be difficult to establish.
However, my club in London is the Oxford & Cambridge club which is typically very easy to get into if you have matriculated at either of the universities.
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#228Earlier quoted context omitted.
A good lawyer will rarely outright tell you something is a crime or not. An accountant may tell you not to do something because it's illegal. A lawyer will instead focus on how good a case could be made against you and what the tradeoff would look like.
Strongly disagree on this. Where I am, a lawyer will tell you squarely if something is criminal. If the facts or law are unclear, they may advise about the balance of risk that creates, but the conclusion (if x, therefore crime) will be clear.
I was oversimplifying, I guess. Lawyers will generally tell you what law something may violate but they will offer context. Something can be legal or illegal depending on what information is available. A good lawyer will tell you not only whether something could technically be considered a crime but will also give you feedback on how to avoid doing that (which may change nothing about the actual thing you plan to do, just how you go about it).
If something is criminal is decided in court. A lawyer advises on how likely the court is to decide that way.