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Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by saiya-jin »

slyall wrote: post #56

I don't see this on the list but "Do things by yourself" is one I'd add. Lots of people seem to have a thing against Going to the Movies, Eating at a restaurant or attending an event/concert/museum without a friend/partner. Trust me it's not unusual and everybody is not staring at you.

Travel. Exotic, remote, cca unspoiled even if poor places. Don't have exact plan, just return ticket and ideas/knowledge. If you are alone, people strike conversations more easily, you get much much more from these interactions than just pretty beach or mountain pictures. Vacations you will keep thinking about till your last breath, even if its sometimes more difficult during them. South east Asia or South America are great for those.

I know quite a few people who literally can't just go on their own. They will bundle up with dubious people and go to subpar vacation they will hate afterwards, but its simply a mental block too big to overcome.

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by pxeger1 »

lmm wrote: post #32
hughes wrote: post #4

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Wouldn't that be a restriction on working as an assistant rather than hiring one?

Depends on your jurisdiction. Sometimes hiring someone without verifying their right to work is a crime. (Or without registering with the tax authorities, or social security, or ensuring they have adequate breaks, or or or... paying someone to work for you is often something that involves quite a lot of responsibility, since the law often doesn't really contemplate private individuals doing it outside of the super-ri…

In that case you just hire via some kind of agency, who deal with the HR for you.

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by kqr »

A big one for me is just a plain

- Ask questions.

You get so much information, so many services and favours, and access to so many things if you are willing to put yourself in a potentially uncomfortable position of asking. I thought that when I ask questions that make me uncomfortable I would regret most of them, but it turns out I only regret like one out of every 30 uncomfortable questions I ask.

I strive to ask more until I reach 10 % regretted, but I don't see it happening any time soon.

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Something else not on this list is:

- Make your own everyday small-stakes insurance by betting with acquiantances.

This takes a willing counterparty, but you can insure a lot of things. Pay a friend $10 on the condition that they will pay you $100

- if the flight departure is canceled, or

- if it's raining on your picnic date, or

- if you get sick on the day of an important meeting.

It won't fix the problem, but it will be a band-aid on the wound.

You may have to adjust the odds based on the probabilities involved, of course. The goal is to offer odds such that your friends just about make money off of you in the long run, meaning there's something in it for them also.

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by pxeger1 »

- not brush your teeth if you’re in a hurry

- hire a car

- not eat regular meals

- wander around aimlessly

- walk up and down the same street many times

- own more than one of something people normally only have one of

- buy stuff in bulk

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by ivanche »

kqr wrote: post #83

A big one for me is just a plain - Ask questions. You get so much information, so many services and favours, and access to so many things if you are willing to put yourself in a potentially uncomfortable position of asking. I thought that when I ask questions that make me uncomfortable I would regret most of them, but it turns out I only regret like one out of every 30 uncomfortable questions I ask. I strive to ask m…

No sane person should take the counter side of such bets.

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by jiggawatts »

slyall wrote: post #56

I don't see this on the list but "Do things by yourself" is one I'd add. Lots of people seem to have a thing against Going to the Movies, Eating at a restaurant or attending an event/concert/museum without a friend/partner. Trust me it's not unusual and everybody is not staring at you.

For me the weird thing is that I couldn't imagine myself eating alone at a restaurant (and basically never did)... until I had to travel for work. Suddenly, eating at restaurants by myself was mandatory, and it was perfectly fine and normal. Nothing to be scared of.

Now I can eat by myself wherever, whenever, no issues.

It's strange how being forced to do something can make you change your perspective so completely.

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by pjerem »

slyall wrote: post #56

I don't see this on the list but "Do things by yourself" is one I'd add. Lots of people seem to have a thing against Going to the Movies, Eating at a restaurant or attending an event/concert/museum without a friend/partner. Trust me it's not unusual and everybody is not staring at you.

Honestly it’s not the shame that make me avoid this but it’s more the lack of sense I feel to an experience if I don’t share it with someone.

As an example, I have no issue eating alone in a restaurant if it’s needed and I can even appreciate the loneliness when it happens but I can’t see the interest to go out alone on my own.

But I can acknowledge that maybe I’m missing something.

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by pjerem »

pxeger1 wrote: post #84

- not brush your teeth if you’re in a hurry - hire a car - not eat regular meals - wander around aimlessly - walk up and down the same street many times - own more than one of something people normally only have one of - buy stuff in bulk

> - not brush your teeth if you’re in a hurry

Ok but if you meet people, do something for the smell and take 10 seconds to check that you don’t have spinach between the teeth :)

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by simonbarker87 »

MichaelRo wrote: post #25
simonbarker87 wrote: post #7

Hiring a physiotherapist is one that drives me mad. I have relatives and friends in real pain and they refuse to spend the £100 to £200 for a couple of sessions of physio to fix the problem. They can all afford it but they doggedly stick to mild pain killers and “it will sort itself out” eventually it may but what a waste of energy for months and years.

Actually they are right. Physio doesn't do shit for the pain and mild pain killers plus "wait and see" is all you got for back injuries. The good part is that it does sort it out but it takes years. It's still a good idea to do some physio for learning some exercises that help on the long run. You'll have to do them yourself from time to time and they relate to exercising the muscles that sustain the spine. Don't thi…

I’ve used physiotherapy over the past decade for three injuries and can say categorically that it alleviates pain, speeds up injury recovery and prevents injury. Like all things, there is a spectrum of effectiveness, not all injuries can be fixed with physio (so do need surgery, some do just need time) and not all physios are equal.

Re: Things you're allowed to do (2020)

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Post by rambambram »

Sometimes people get confused by the law and think: "I have to ask permission", or "does the law allow me to do this?"

You are allowed to do anything, until the law forbids it or stuff is regulated in a certain way.

Looking at it from this point of view, the world immediately opens up for you.

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